Posted by:
forestpal
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Date: August 17, 2012 01:35AM
Your story is an inspiration to me, too (wiping away the tears.) I am so sorry for your loss!
You have achieved a great deal, in gently leading your children out of what I believe is an evil cult. I'm always happy to read about a family that was NOT fragmented by Mormonism. My children led me out, and we all resigned together. Their father abandoned us, and I raised them alone. They were great kids, and have grown into great human beings. We are all very close--closer than we would have been if I had stayed in the cult. We have had our share of struggles, but Mormonism was the only thing we yelled at each other about. The Mormon religion makes everything WORSE. I can testify to that.
You have saved your children from a lot of grief. They will not be plagued with guilt and uncertainty--wondering if they are worthy enough to be with their mother in the hereafter. My children were taught in Primary, that because their father and I are divorced, they would "pass by each other as strangers" in the CK. My little kids were warned that it was their responsibility to keep me paying tithing and doing temple work, so I would be worthy of finding them a new father someday. What a horrible burden on them! I wanted them to have few worries, except to complete their homework, be good citizens, and have a happy, fun childhood. Mormonism = unnecessary burdens.
It is my honest opinion that you and your children will adjust better to your wife's death, if you let your lives flow naturally along. You don't have to feel you are "lacking in faith" when you miss her and mourn her. You love her, and it is natural to be sad. You won't have the pressure to replace her when the Mormons tell you that you must marry another Mormon woman in the temple ASAP.
When I rejected Joseph Smith and his ridiculous scriptures and tall tales, I felt much closer to Christ and God. I still believe in a hereafter, but certainly not in the silly JS/Swedenberg version. A class hierarchy in Heaven? Joseph Smith helping God judge us? My close relative was a respected GA in the LDS Church, and he made it very clear to us kids that: "No one has ever died and gone to Heaven, then returned to tell about it. We just don't know!" He said that even the Mormon Prophets did not know.
Part of what we do know is that human beings are all bound together as ONE with each other, and with the universe. As Carl Sagan says, "We are made of the same 'star stuff.' The same elements in our bodies have been found in the farthest reaches of space. A mother's birth fluid is identical to the waters of the ocean which gave birth to the first life on Earth. Whatever happens after we die is fair and just, and it happens to all of us, in our turn. This gives me far more comfort than constantly being reminded of death all day every Sunday, and every time we hear a Mormon prayer. Death is the focus of the Mormon church. The temple rituals for dead people are a huge money-maker for LDS, inc. "Forever families" are locked in a death-grip of fear of being punished by the MorGod, for all eternity.
Letting go of Mormonism's false idea of the hereafter has freed me. I can remember my loved ones who have passed on, as I like to remember them. I know they live in my memory. I feel their presence in my forest (there's a group of tall trees, who's canopy forms a dome, which I call "The Cathedral"). I think of them with love, while watching the sun set brilliantly, or the snow fall peacefully. I don't have to know why. I no longer think of unhappy dead souls waiting on benches in the Mormon temple to be "saved", or souls being turned away from a fake CK, because they did something wrong, or some petty detail was overlooked. Christ has already saved us all, and the Mormons have tried to trivialize His Atonement, and tell us that only obedient, perfect Mormons will be saved. I see my family all together, smiling, singing praises, loving each other. The fear is gone!
You are correct about not resigning. The Mormons can not tell God what to do. The Mormon priesthood holders have no power or "authority" over any of us. The church is not real.
I hope the Mormon stalkers leave you and your children alone, to enjoy your family fun, and your unconditional love.