Our friend told us that his friend's daughter, who is attending BYU, related a sacrament meeting warning given by her bishop. Apparently, there is a big problem among BYU students with a new activity called "gazing". Presumably, you get nekkid with a member of the opposite sex and gaze at each other. Sounds like a dumb idea to me, but it's enough of a problem that they are addressing it in the BYU wards!

How unfun is that?!!

It was a common practice in some encounter group
sessions I recall from the 1970s.

But, in those cases, the "gazing" was conducted under
the supervision of a trained group leader and was
done for the purpose of breaking down individuals'
self-defenses against group sharing.

It gets rather boring after the first five minutes.
Like being turned lose in a nudist colony filled with
people who are either fat, skinny or too ugly to
sustain much interest.

Sound like something Mormons might try doing as an
ignorant form of teenage rebellion, I suppose.

UD



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The sad part, in Mormonism, this would be a sin, even for Married couples, since they wouldn't be wearing their garments.

At my age gazing would be about as much as I could handle. As for those young students, I suspect they're using the braille method.

dude, tell me they are at least mutually masturbating!!

Not that I'm aware of. Boring!

It reminds me of Jews in Israel. Their scriptures state that no swine shall be raised on the soil of Israel. So, they build platforms and raise pigs on them.

Those poor kids. They try so hard to think up ways to have sex without having sex. It's torture...but funny.

It's hilarious to watch them do things to work around the rules. I'm temple worthy...I only gazed, dry humped, had @nal and oral sEx, but I'm a virgin!

Now when I think of JS "gazing" with a PEEP stone, it has new meaning. :-)

Mmm, wow...

I remember hearing about that a handful of years ago from a friend with a young teenaged daughter. Apparently that was on the activities list for a party her daughter was at.

Ha ha ha ha ha ha

Considerably more innocent than the "soaking" I read about here a year or three ago!

:D :D :D

Yeah reading the definition of soaking on urbandictionary made me want to barf.

now i just looked it up. is that really common with mormons? whats the point?

Apparently it's all the rage. They aren't having 'actual' sex because they Aren't moving.

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=dick%20soak

ahahahahahahahahaha!!!

I've heard of mormon "docking" Erect penis in a vaj but no movement. It isn't sex if there is no movement.

Lol!!!

I would suspect it takes some movement to initiate a docking.

I guess TBMs are so used to mental gymnastics that they can rationalize anything!

I'm sure you've heard the BYU / Utah-Youth slogan:

Stay Moral, keep it Oral.

...so Gazing is far less "problematic" than oral (or Docking [which I had never heard of]).

Docking has another meaning altogether than what it is being used for in this instance. I heard it called "soaking" which at least distinguishes it from the other sex act act that is "docking".
*snerk* at ignorant kids calling it this...

Shenanigans like this aren't new. These occurred in the 1960's in Happy Valley:

When I was about 14, a neighbor girl who was really streetwise and brassy would get naked and let the local boys masturbate to her in a back shed. The rule was, no touching! She wasn't Mormon, but some of the boys were. I wasn't asked to participate, and was rather sad about it....

Another time a different girl, high school age, (from a quite wealthy Provo Mormon family) would allow boys to play tennis with her while she was naked. Again, the rule was the same.



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I go to BYU, and I've never heard of it.

i'm having a hard time believing this, because if two young college students are getting naked just to look at each other there would be a lot more than just "gazing" going on.

I bet it has happened before but likely not a mass phenomenon. It's a juicy story very amenable to mass hysteria memeage or urban legend. Just the sort of thing a bishop would flag on and get all panicky about!



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I wouldn't have enough self-control for these fetishes, especially in my early 20s. How do you propose something like "gazing" to another person? "Hey, I know. After family home evening, let's take all our clothes off and stare at each other and not touch. It'll be fun. Everybody's doing it." No touching? I don't know.

LOL!

Hmm... maybe thats not all the guy actually has in mind when he suggests it...

Makes Utah County feel even more like a bad episode of The Twilight Zone.

Before my TBM BIL got married, he and his fiancee would make out in their swimsuits all the time. He told my DH about it. They only knew each other for two months by the time they got married. It wasn't about the sex though. At least that's what they claim.



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