Posted by:
forestpal
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Date: September 10, 2012 01:34AM
The same thing happened to me, Mia. My temple ex beat me, and almost killed me, and I divorced him after 14 months of hell. A few years later, my old boyfriend at BYU and I wanted to get married in the temple, but we could not, because the battering thug was mad at me, and would not return the church's letter. The church needed HIS opinion of whether I had been "worthy," meaning if I had not cheated, had worn my garments, had attended meetings, etc. I tried for almost 30 years to get my cancellation of sealing, and the various bishops and stake presidents would say, "sure," but then get back with me later and say, "No."
Moreover, the church leaders told me that I even though we were divorced, that I was still sealed to the wife-beater. Huh? I was the one who wanted nothing to do with the thug, yet the church was doing me a favor by honoring my sealing. I asked, "Why in a zillion eternities would I ever want to be sealed to this monster?" The answer was, that my children, by my second husband several years later, were also be sealed to the wife-beater, and therefore--here's the blessing in all this--halleluja--my children were sealed to me for all eternity! (Just not to their father.) The stake presidency told me this, and they were all beaming with holy love.
"Sister Forestpal, you and your children are a "Forever Family!" What's a few batterings here and there for eternity, and rapings and pregnancies for eternity, and being a polygamous wife of a repulsive creep, if you can see your children?
I don't know why I was so stupid to keep trying to go back to that cult--it was over for me in that first sealing.
A woman can get married in the temple only once, so if her husband "falls away", it is tough luck. A man, like my ex, can get married in the temple as many times as he wants. He needs to get a civil divorce from one wife, before marrying another, but there is no temple divorce. My ex has accumulated three temple wives in this manner, although I'm sure his other divorces were due to extreme physical cruelty as well. Dallin Oaks, Howard Hunter, Russel Nelson, are among the GA's who have more than one temple wife, because their first wives died.