Posted by:
forestpal
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Date: September 12, 2012 11:31PM
Doxi is right! My brother is a pedophile, and is revered in his ward as a big tithe-payer, and he bears his testimony every fast Sunday without fail. He's single, and Mormon families invite him over for Sunday dinner, Christmas, Thanksgiving. He writes me letters about their daughters, which I tear up. I used to try to warn people, but it just backfired. Our neighborhood ward has a pedophile teaching primary right now. When it was our children, some TBM friends and I convinced our bishop to release the pedophile, because he was physically spanking the children. But, as soon as the bishopric changed, the pedophile was teaching again.
Faboo, if I could wish away your sadness, I could. I hope you understand that your parents' prejudices have nothing to do with you as a person. Yet, family is intensely personal. I tried for a lifetime to forgive the brother who beat me, forgive my parents who allowed him to beat me, and who beat me, also. I tried to forget the name-calling and cursing, and forgive it, as Mormons are taught to forgive. My parents were not hurt, and I never gave them any trouble, and I married the returned missionary of their choice, in the temple. But, my temple ex-husband beat me. I left the hospital, and left him, and ran away in fear of him, and began a new life. Being a divorcee was almost as big a stigma as being gay. We were both reviled for something we could not change. Even now, after two divorces (my second TBM husband left me for another woman) my parents are on my back to get married again. I could no more have sex with a man, than you could.
Mormons, by decree, according to a talk by Russel M. Nelson, and according to their teachings about Christ's Atonement, do not believe in unconditional love. Probably the most perfect, straight, married mother of 12 doesn't have the love of her perfectionistic Mormon parents.
Go live your life! You are correct, that you will probably have to keep your parents at a distance. I went through a lot of agony trying to get my parents' approval, before I finally realized it was impossible. I never even hoped for love.
There is love in the world outside of Mormonism. You probably already have wonderful friends, and will have more in the future!