Posted by:
ducky333
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Date: September 18, 2012 06:18PM
I met a lovely yw yesterday. She's a college student of 20 with Native American ancestry from a large town in southern Utah. The subject of religion came up. She stated adamantly that she will never go back to the church; I asked her if she'd mind sharing why.
She said she has a very small tattoo of a flower on her leg. She also has a tiny stud through her nose, emblem of her Pacific Northwest Indian tribe. She does not wear the eponymous nose ring but, instead, sports a small, shiny stud.
The last time she went to church, she wore a short skirt with sandals or flip flops. The bishop called her in to his office before church ended. He told her that the ward wanted to pay for her to have her tattoo removed by laser treatments. She said she stood there stunned and didn't know what to say to him. She did ask why the ward would want to do such a thing. He said that "certain families" felt the tattoo should be removed.
I thought, wow, what a weasel-like approach. Takes him out of the equation altogether to make it look like others had approached him on the subject (and perhaps they had; shame on all parties involved). She said, as if in answer to my thought, she didn't know if what he said was true or not with respect to these "families," but in her gut she felt that he was demanding it of her as bishop.
Which was pretty much proven upon his next words to her. He asked her, right then and there, to remove her nose stud. In his presence, as some freakish show of obedience. She told him why she wore it, but he was resolute, implacable. She said she then turned her back, walked out of his office and never looked back. Her mother was furious at the bishop as well. She and her family are now thinking of going to the local Catholic church.
I thought about this a lot yesterday. Isn't it amazing what bishops like him think are appropriate uses of his mantle as bishop? Furthermore, what does this say about appropriate uses of ward funds or donations by families? How did that accomplish the three-fold mission of the church in any way? It proved nothing but that he was a control freak and that more humanitarian uses for those funds weren't as important as her on-the-spot obedience to his authority. The whole story reeks of cultish control. I'm glad the girl had the guts to stand up to the bully.
Btw, sorry if the topic was misleading, but I thought it was appropriate since, in her words, he was asking her to remove something she considered a beautiful and artistic expression of self on her own body.