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AmIDarkNow?
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Date: December 29, 2010 02:39AM
Seriously, what so many of us wouldn’t give to go back and choose someone who could think and stand up for themselves like you. We got married to the church instead of what was supposed to be a spouse that loved you unconditionally.
Years later after life, money and kids have gone under the bridge we find out the stark naked truth. You need to avoid this kind of heart ache and emotional devastation at all costs.
Like others have said it takes time to deprogram.
IF (to be fair that is a big fat IF) he comes home where will he go to be safe? Will he be stuck with family? Will he live with you? Does he have non-mormons he could live with temporarily as he works with you to study for himself (with you by his side) about the real history and activities of the church that he was not taught in Sunday school?
Like others have stated the pressure and shame is real. He will be interrogated by all the "yourwrongimonies" will come at him from all sides. So having a “safe” place would be paramount in my opinion.
If I were you I would give him faith disrupting facts that come straight out of the scriptures he carries around as a missionary. I would tell him that you could not begin to love a man that thought for one second that D&C 132 came from God and that more likely it came from a child having a tantrum.
Tell him that Emma’s Free Agency is destroyed which thing she supposedly won in the war in heaven and that not even God can take that away. Read it for yourself. He can read it himself as he has it in his hand all day long. That’s just a start. Tell him that you will not stand for women being treated in such a manner nor would you have a husband who would remotely believe such a horrible thing. That ought to wake him up since he seems to hold you in high esteem.
The church can be deconstructed with what he carries every single day and is not even remotely “anti-mormon”. Others here can give you great and simple examples of serious problems such as God cursing the unrighteous with dark skin and ugliness and then white again when they turn righteous and then dark again and many other problems such as the massive amount of plagiarism that he can check for himself.
Go here and print the comparisons and send it to him, he can verify it all by himself
http://kmabom.wordpress.com/kjv-in-the-book-of-mormon-case-closed/All this is staring him right in the face with his own scriptures, it is just that he has been taught to look at them in a manner that overlooks the obvious.
So my whole point is he unknowingly carries the destruction of the fraud he so cherishes. Use it. IMO it is your only hope.
Whether you take my advice or not I wish you luck Ms.Rockfish.
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 12/29/2010 02:46AM by AmIDarkNow?.