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Nightingale
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Date: January 01, 2011 04:29PM
I wrote this post before Christmas but it got stuck in a queue and just recently made it out alive. It's my response to someone's comment about hungry missionaries on another thread from a few weeks back. I witnessed this too, as the rules about feeding missionaries became more rigid in my area (no members allowed to feed mishies unless they also invited a prospective investigator; mishies could only stay one hour, and even if dinner hadn't been served or completed in that time period they had to leave, etc). Cost of living is high here and I know for a fact that missionaries didn't have a big enough budget to cover food each month, especially if there were three in one companionship. I knew of several companionships where the mishies had many hungry days in any given month. What kind of church, I wondered and fretted at the time, would see their missionaries go hungry? (Or any fellow human, come to that).
I witnessed ongoing food deprivation and physical/mental health issues not looked after such that I drove missionaries to medical appointments myself (even when I had to pay the MD and lab bills myself on one occasion, and when I had to contact a specialist for advice on another) as well as occurrences in companionships that I considered to be obvious "domestic abuse". The latter were denied and ignored by the MP I appealed to about it (such that he wouldn't even consider transferring the victimized sister mish in one case and in fact left her there for an extra month, and such that I had to contact the ZL and set up an underground railway-type safety net for more than one area, breaking rules to call and keep in touch with mishies out of my area).
After this, it was impossible for me to respect church leaders, local and afar, their damn stupid missionary program, or their approach to "Christianity". ("...When I was hungry did you not feed me...?").
It is a part of my Mormon interlude that still haunts me and I kick myself for not doing more to address it. I can still see the disillusionment and sadness and even despair on the faces of some of the suffering missionaries who undoubtedly must have asked themselves why their church exposed them to such harsh and negative experiences, if their parents knew what it was like, how they were going to get through it and make it home safely, and other haunting questions about the need to go through unnecessary suffering like this (such as the mish who left his face on the roadway in a bike accident and was afraid to go to Emerg - the prevailing philosophy in this mission field was you have to just suck it up - whatever "it" is - and including a sis mish who was literally being physically abused by her comp. Instead of defending herself or appealing for help, she believed it was a trial of her faith and she just had to "endure to the end". NB - it's tough to help people with such a mindset).
If anyone wants to see the dysfunction of Mormonism up close and personal, get to know a few missionaries. (And I'm in an affluent area in a peaceful, democratic country - I cannot even begin to imagine the harsh reality of missions in South America and Eastern Europe, etc).
My delayed post on this is as follows:
imalive said:
"...it ...ticks me off about how my local missionaries have to go to a food bank just for bread and other basic grocery items..."
Pardon me? How can it be justified to send missionaries out into the world without the means to look after themselves? It's not right that they should have to resort to community resources, meant for citizens living in poverty, to provide themselves with the basics. Are you serious that mishies in your area have to get bread from a food bank? The optics are SO BAD for the Mormon Church.
But why am I surprised. They do seem to trip over their own feet many times more than should be necessary for them to see reality.
In non-mo churches, missionaries may save ahead for missions they are planning and/or the congregation actively supports its missionaries (true enough, there are usually fewer than in mo churches, where every teen male is expected to be mission-bound). Congregations also support the purpose of the mission, which can be to dig wells, construct homes, teach, feed, etc. If you can't go or you choose to do other projects, you can still support and participate by donations.
Does that not make a lot more sense? Pay your own way and don't impose on resources in your host community? What does it say about a church, its representatives, its message and the mission itself if Boyz in Suits are lining up at the local food bank, along with families truly in need?
Reference thread:
http://exmormon.org/phorum/read.php?2,49161Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 01/01/2011 04:42PM by Nightingale.