Posted by:
forestpal
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Date: November 16, 2012 02:19AM
Most mortuaries have a chapel, which they rent for very little money. They have an organist for hire, too. The cost is certainly worth not having the mandatory "Mormon plan of salvation" preached, and not having your relative's death exploited as a sales opportunity.
I left specific instructions in my Will. I was very clear that I do not want a funeral in a Mormon chapel, do not want any Mormon prayers, officiators, etc.
I want a "wake." I've been to several wakes recently, and they were lovely, and personal. They were held in the houses of the deceased person's children. Each adult child said something, and often told funny stories. I liked the laughter. One daughter was a concert pianist, and played a beautiful Chopin nocturne. At one wake, the children sang a song with Lyrics by Robert Lewis Stevenson. (Not "I am a child of Gaaawwwd.") Good friends. Good food.
If my children would rather have a graveside service, that is fine, too. Cemeteries provide a microphone, chairs, and an awning, for a fee, and people can say whatever they want. Do not let any Mormon "dedicate the grave" though. My aunt, a jack Mormon, had graveside ceremony last month, with a bagpiper.
A single woman friend of mine died young, and her funeral was for everyone to have a catered lunch! It was set up at the rec center at her condo complex. All us women, and some husbands and a few man friends, and her mother and single sister, could console each other, and talk about her. People could stand up around the room, and give a toast or speech.
Another friend had her funeral in a Methodist church, but it more "New Age" than religious. A friend gave a guided imagery, and there were several poetry readings, and brief talks by her kids--really lovely--and it all reflected who she was.
You are now free! You can have any kind of funeral you want! You can go to any Heaven you want!
Take time, and plan it, and you won't have to worry about it for the next 70 years.
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 11/16/2012 02:25AM by forestpal.