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Anon please too much IRL
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Date: November 18, 2012 12:30AM
One of my family members I am close too is having a big problem with 10 year old girl stealing.
Mother left the church, took kids with her, but is forced to have joint custody with ex Raving TBM husband. Her ex TBM and his family are all about appearances in the church and how good they look in the community.
When she was married to him they went through a foreclosure/bankruptcy etc.
Now with his new wife her children have to go over to stepmother and Dads every week.
The 10 year old girl feels deprived. She doesn't have what the other kids have. Which isn't true, she doesn't have a sense of gratitude for what she has.
So when I suggested my friend might ask her FIL for advice on what to do about a child who steals, he had eight children, she told me all he would offer is church! And baptism! and 'the gift of the holy ghost" and nothing more until those three requirements were met. What else could you expect from a former Bishop????
So what works to teach a child not to steal? She can do minor chores to earn money for what she wants but she pitches a fit and claims she'll never do dishes. She has privileges and personal items taken away, it doesn't sink in.
Her Mom is going to take her down to the center where she used to get food baskets when she first left her husband and have her girl pack baskets to get a better perspective.
This little girl must be acting out and feeling some lack. But what can be done?
Did anyone steal when little? What turned you around? What would have helped? She got a new winter coat, her brother got a few more winter clothes because he needed some and he can't wear her hand me downs. She got new fancy rain boots, but stole from the book fair because she wasn't going to have any spending money for the book fair this year. (Daddy's going through a foreclosure on his McMansion with his second wife...child support is behind again).
So the theme is she feels entitled. Her Mom wonders if it's genetic from the girls Dad???
Sorry about the long post.
The LOL was when the girls mother said, well maybe you do need religion to straighten you out? You want to go to church with DAD? Because you won't stop stealing? The girl yelled nooooooo!