I got a mind to no show thanksgiving dinner. I'll show up late for leftovers. I'm the child of 4 left unmarried. Prospects and reasoning not great at my age. Feels like I got a heavy load and I know Mormonism has harmed me even though I don't participate. Don't wanna ask for help. Just don't wanna raise my daily hell level by praying to brigham young for my turkey. Don't wanna hear church talk from my sibling's kids. Just don't wanna be there. It's like a war for me that can never be won. Suicide won't help anyone. Just gonna show very late.

You feel the way you do for a lot of very good reasons. Keep in perspective, that Mormons are only .02% of America, and they are an insane little cult. Don't give them so much power over you.

Would you really consider suicide just to avoid Thanksgiving dinner? Something is seriously wrong here.

You have probably lived your whole TBM life, doing things you do not want to do, so I think you don't owe your family any more of that. Go, only if you want to go, to be nice. Go for the food, and take some leftovers home with you. Or, don't go.

Whatever you decide to do, do something else right after, that you love to do. Think about it and look forward to it, when you are with your family. Text someone about it, put a reminder in your phone, and have it ring when it is time for you to leave the dinner. Reward yourself for getting through. AT least they don't make you do all the cooking and cleanup. That can trap you in the kitchen for hours. I wear headphones, even when there isn't a game playing.

Alice Wrote:
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> You feel the way you do for a lot of very good
> reasons. Keep in perspective, that Mormons are
> only .02% of America, and they are an insane
> little cult.

I thought they were 2% of America and the fastest growing religion in the world?

I'm not a Mormon or an ex-Mormon, so please excuse my ignorance.

2% of US population. 0.2% of world's population.

How about doing a movie before or after the Chinese?

him with a store-bought baked pie as his contribution to the dinner. Problem solved there.

I plan on ordering Chinese take out for my personal Thanksgiving dinner which I am already looking forward to.

The options were five hours with his family or Chinese food. I believe I have selected the best option.

Dealing with family sh*t will get better over time.

See my response above about movie to go with Chinese. Sorry.

You could tell them you have other plans. Then make some plans of your own. Have your own little party or do something special with the day.

Or tell them you'll come for pie after your important date and find a date so you won't be lying. Serving dinners to the poor might make you feel better. There are many churches and community organizations cooking and serving Thankgiving meals. They often need willing hands.

I used to teach school in a neighborhood when many families ate their Thanksgiving and dinners for free. They appreciated the generosity of those who organized and provided what they could not provide for their children and for older or homeless people in the neighborhood.

Don't go. Just go take in a movie you want to see, or find some like minded friends and hang out, have your own un-Thanksgiving. Nothing wrong with that.

to 'stiff kid' , you must be the family "scapegoat". the person they blame for everything that goes wrong in their life. can't blame you for not wanting to be there on turkey day, maybe you don't have a choice about being there.... I'm the one quietly enjoying the jokes that the family "black sheep" puts out, Sometimes the most humane people at these get-togethers like turky day, aare the ones that the most of the group hates. Cause while they work togeether "like a team" and everyone seems to agree (Big Lie), I think to myself: "wide is the gate and Many are they that fall...." it goes something like that, I also have to resist the urge to say "a****les" at the end of the sentence. going to thankgiving and drinking goes together for many Americans on this Dysfunctional Family Holiday...

If you are a resident of Colorado or Washington, and over the age of 21, a bong hit may be in order.



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I just loved reading this line. Thxs

Your decision is sound to me. We are just conditioned to feel guilty about it. Some more than others.

I will go where I am wanted. Just as me.
I simply can't tolerate the "family" being nice to my face while I know the tide is a strong undertow area.

My own company is far preferable and sets better with me

ladell's comment got me thinking

I use to get drunk each holiday to some degree. It gave me something familiar to look forward to as I playacted my role. It worked for many years. Or I used some medication to help me "get thru" the day. I have a variety of mood altering legal methods. After many years I have learned, just for me, the price is too high to pay. lol, there's a pun in there

Hopefully I won't need tweaking of any sort to enjoy TD this year :)

I stopped attending "family" holidays A LONG time ago to save myself from the boredom, craziness and silliness that accompanied each and every one of them.

That sounds like a horrible Thanksgiving. You don't have to go. Like some other posters suggested, make other plans for yourself and tell your family you're not coming. Maybe donate food and time to provide Thanksgiving to others. Or go out to a fancy restaurant and let someone else wait on you. Or go out to a movie. Or stay home in sweats and watch a marathon of your favorite movies or tv shows. Read a book. Play video games all day long. Turn your phone off.

All excellent ideas!

I even left the country one year. LOL!