Posted by:
Molly Misanthrope
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Date: September 17, 2010 04:42PM
I have a friend living in St. George right now. She has her graduate degree in nursing and holds down both a teaching position and a part time nursing job. Her husband is an RM (of course!) and is "thinking about" going to college. She's pregnant with their first child, and mentioned that they were underwater on their mortgage for the condo that she bought when she was single.
I'm single and very much not living in Mordor (although I spent 9 years there). Yesterday we were chatting online, and I thought our conversation was odd for a couple reasons.
1) She claimed that a lot of her friends had husbands that were staying at home to study or take care of kids while their educated wives supported them. I always thought that this was opposite of what TBMs' "ideal" marriage is supposed to be. Is this a new trend? Any thoughts?
2) Immediately following this she said that I should marry a rich man who was "ready-to-go" with life, and then immediately afterwards said that money wasn't everything. Huh? She knows I recently met a fellow who is a bit older and has his master's already (I'm working on mine).
3) She also said that I need to get "all of my fun" out of the way before I get married and have kids, but from my perspective, her definition of "fun" and mine differ wildly. Maybe I've been out of the loop, but outside of RM quilting get-togethers, what to TBMs consider "fun"?