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Date: January 21, 2013 04:41PM
I wouldn't bother with a response... You say you want to make a point, but what point would you make? He is a TBM following his programing, he will not get your point.
From his perspective, judging by the e-mail, Church comes first, before education, possibly even family. Unless he's ready for de-conversion, he won't listen to actual reasons. Any response you give will simply be an invitation to become a project, more than you possibly already are.
Play the "How would a TBM respond game". If you, for example, state "My education is more important" You are asking him to prove that your eternal salvation is far more important than some silly test... Or that if you have enough faith and go to the SYE, that God will help you with your test, spiritually cheating for you. If you simply state "Sorry, I can't make it." One, you've apologized for doing nothing wrong and you're asking for the "Why not? It's going to be a super cool, extra awesome event with ice cream and cookies! How 'bout I pick you up?" And then it degenerates into a back and forth where you try to keep away. If you respond with a joke, you've he will take it badly and you will rumors will start where people wonder if you are an evil apostate. If you have to attend for family reasons, you don't want to deal with that.
No, I would not respond at all. You do not owe him a response. If he asks you about it at church, all you have to say is "I couldn't make it." and leave it at that. If he presses, "I know you're being friendly and I appreciate it, but I had something else going on at the time and I couldn't make it."
Whatever you do, do not apologize, you have nothing to apologize for. You haven't done anything wrong, you should not apologize.
I hope that you don't have to attend much longer, dealing with this type of stuff gets tiresome and annoying. Another reason why I don't play the game.