Posted by:
Rebeckah
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Date: January 27, 2013 07:42PM
I'm just curious as to your take on a kerfluffle that just happened between a friend and her friend(?).
My friend has bipolar and we just recently moved in together. It's a pretty nice situation -- we've known each other for decades and together we can afford a far better house than otherwise. Also, I am now employed part-time as her caregiver, doing what I would be doing anyway.
An old friend of hers from before we met showed back up in her life just as my friend and I were deciding to move in together. This woman has been a source of stress and anxiety to say the least.
She makes mean comments to my friend. Things like: "Boy I wish I had a caregiver so I could sit around all day." or "You can't do anything. Even cooking flusters you."
And she'd alternate these attacks with conversations that were innocuous. Oh, and she'd do it in the evenings, when someone with bi-polar starts to be more vulnerable.
So I convinced my friend (with her counselor's support) to call a halt to conversations after 6 pm.
Guess who just HAD to talk to her "just for a minute" or "just to give her a scripture" every night after 6?
Finally, today, after a lot of encouragement from me, my friend told her how she kept feeling after the hit and run comments. Her friend's response?
She flipped! She called me, apparently unaware that I'd been in the room the entire time. Insisted that my friend was very mean and attacked her. Kept it up even after I informed her I was right there and heard every word she said and KNEW that this wasn't an attack on my friend's part. Went on Facebook to post passive aggressive attacks. Etc.
So, just out of curiousity -- what does this sound like to those of you with experience.
(The nice thing is that I think the friend of a friend is probably going to disappear for a while -- not that I'm going to be upset.)