Posted by:
spwdone
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Date: February 23, 2013 11:51PM
Ok, RJ, really?
Either you are subverting a tremendous amount of pain that you probably need treatment to deal with or you are really just an a@#.
I prefer to believe the former, so, here's my response to a previous thread that got ridiculous. Take it however you want, but come on, a little compassion wouldn't hurt. Bullying is wrong, whether you're PC or not.
Trying to say that the pain of someone who has lost a child doesn't matter because there are people who have lost their entire families, or that the pain of someone who breaks a leg because there are people who have lost a leg doesn't matter, or the pain of someone who was hit with a stick as a child doesn't matter because some people were hit with chairs, is so ludicrous as to make the assumption completely unreal and immaterial.
Here's the link, text copied below.
http://exmormon.org/phorum/read.php?2,804216Ok, sorry, but I have to respond to the previous threads.
Come on folks (not directed to anyone in particular, so calm down!), this is NOT A CONTEST! It is not about who has been hurt the most - what a ridiculous thing to compare. Any damage is too much, so let's just acknowledge that we all have our own issues and are not perfect. We don't have the right to judge anyone else, much less decide if their experience has been traumatic or not!
This is supposed to be a supportive place where people who have been hurt by Mormonism in any way can share their feelings and traumas about any issue they are dealing with. Everyone should be able to share their own feelings/experiences/traumas without worrying about their issues being belittled.
NONE of us can ever totally understand or know what is going on inside another person. We are all different and have different backgrounds. Something that one person may be able to shrug off could very easily be so traumatic to another person that it could cause serious emotional trauma. Making light of someone else's problems is not only rotten, it's arrogant and judgemental, something most of us abhore in many experiences with TSCC.
Being an ex-mo or never-mo does not mean we all have to agree on everything and be the same - remember, that's one of reasons we participate/lurk/post on this site.
So, let's not be hypocrites, ok? If this ticks you off, you need to stop and think honestly before you start writing the hate posts, but if you have to in order to deal, well, I can take it, so go ahead.