Posted by:
SusieQ#1
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Date: March 19, 2013 07:13PM
I don't have much anger, ever. Frustration, yes.
Lots of things contributed to how little anger I ever felt over leaving the LDS Church. I was an adult convert, I had a completely different perspective going in.
My anger, over the years in the LDS Church was over the behaviors of people who ought to know better that took it out on me. (I had not yet learned the principle of: Do not take anything personally. And, let go of what you can't control.)
I get angry from time to time. But it's very rare, now days. I know that it's a negative emotion that is detrimental to me on many levels- it's OK to feel the emotion, then to get out of it quickly as it's self-sabotage--as all negative emotions. Sure, I'm human, I am going to be responsive to what others do, however, the less I allow negative emotions to influence my thinking, the better life is.
The more productive choice, I have learned, is to detach from other people's negativity/drama/outbursts/ and not let it influence my thinking and my life.
I have never had any concern about "recovery" as some called it, probably because I was in my late 50's and was a convert earlier in my life.
My attitude was governed by: I changed my mind, and went about an Exit Process from Mormonism, deleting and rewriting all those automatic thinking scripts that ran in my head. It was about looking forward, not back. Living today and letting the past go... I don't live there anyhow.
It was about creating a new World View and allowing that to evolve. And, the most important part for me in that process: let it all go, forgive everyone everything and live with an attitude of gratitude. It was about taking my power back and owning it and not giving it away to anyone.
I never have understood nor internalized any religion or belief that I subscribed to or accepted at different times of my life as detrimental to me, delusional, etc. It's religion. It is what it is. It's the same pattern throughout human history.
I tend to "think funny" so when I realized how Joseph Smith Jr had created his own religion and how people generations later still believe his supernatural, metaphysical visionary claims, it struck my funny bone. I giggled. Then I laughed and laughed and laughed. For days! OH MY GOSH. He got away with it! And it's still working.
I've also developed a very thick skin (thanks to Mormonism and my experience in the work place). The result: it's nearly impossible to offend me, or "make" me mad, or force me to "take" offense. Simply put: I refuse to give anyone that kind of power over me.
The result of living with an attitude of gratitude and thankfulness is amazing. I recommend it highly. Find the good, ignore the bad, and find the joy and freedom and happiness.
ahh..how sweet it is!