Posted by:
forestpal
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Date: January 17, 2011 05:53AM
Several of my best friends (female) graduated from BYU without having one date! These women were intelligent, and had strong opinions. One was a Democrat, one had questions about the cult, and all were feminists. They didn't get married until ages 26-31, and they married very unusual, outstanding men, who were already established in their careers, who wanted a more equal marriage, and who were NOT MORMONS. They are still happily married.
They were pretty, and attracted the boys like flies-- but they did not flirt or put themselves forward. They also did not ask the boys on dates, like most of the BYU gals did. Our wing in the dorms was called the "hot wing", because we had a lot of cheerleaders and beauty queens.
I was very popular with the boys--but only for superficial reasons. I fit the stereotype in the looks department. I was friendly, good-natured, spiritual, and came from a prominent GA family. I knew how to behave, what to say, how to keep my opinions and sense of humor to myself, and tried not to talk too much. IMO, the Mormon guys liked the quieter girls. I had a lot of marriage proposals--none of which I took seriously. A boy would say, "I love you," and I would say something like, "You don't even know me." They just knew the fake me. I had two steady boyfriends (consecutively) who were extremely social, student body officer types, who were good at hype, and have been very successful in the LDS world.
I had it wrong, and my friends who didn't date were the ones who had it right. They refused to be phony for anyone.