Posted by:
The 1st FreeAtLast
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Date: March 22, 2013 01:43AM
Post-Mormonism, one of the more daunting AND liberating realizations is that there is no one coming to our rescue, not individually or collectively. After all the tears, time spent wishing for what never was and what is not, articulated grief, loss, and and other difficult emotions, there is existence. Life.
Either we do SOMETHING to improve the quality of our life, even if it's only doing a post on RfM asking for help as we try to figure things out, or going online to search for badly needed self-help information, or we do nothing.
Self-assertion or continuing to perceive ourselves as a victim and remain stuck - that's what it boils down to. The former might involve seeking out subsidized (100% or less) psychotherapy to talk over our situation with a mental health professional and work out a roadmap, so to speak, from where we are to where we wish to go in our life.
There might be a great amount of emotional and mental healing from Point A to B and the challenge before us might seem very daunting. But what's the alternative, really? Continue in the status quo?
None of us knows, specifically, what you need to do to move forward in your life, to heal and move into a psychological place, if you will, that works for you. You have to figure it out for yourself. It's your responsibility and part of you creating your life from this point forward.
In cultic Mormonism, people are not taught that Life is a process of self-creation. Significantly, via the choices we make - and don't make - we create our lives.
Mo-ism also doesn't teach people to learn to become resilient, to develop inner strength. In the disempowering LDS religion, the notion is that if an individual is suffering, he or she should 'turn to God' for help, God being defined by the religion.
In other words, Mormonism says that the individual does not have the strength in and of himself or herself to cope with whatever difficulty or challenges are facing the person. Hence, Latter-day Saints do not perceive themselves as personally powerful. The Mormon deities, Heavenly Father & Jesus Christ, are all-powerful and mortals are "nothing without God", goes the dysfunctional thinking.
But the "inconvenient" truth for an unhealthy religion like Mo-ism is that since the dawn of humans some 200,000 years ago, our species has ALWAYS had to learn to adapt/cope and be resourceful and resilient.
Fortunately, we live at a time in which there is more knowledge and resources available to people than at any point during the past 200 millennia. It's never been easier to reach out and ask for help and find info. that can help us solve our problems. We have extraordinary communication and other tools at our fingertips.
Here's online info. that may be of use to you:
Self-esteem is:
1. A feeling of being worthy and deserving.
2. The reputation that we acquire with ourselves over time, particularly with our mind.
3. Confidence in our ability to think correctly and in our judgments.
4. Confidence in our ability to cope with the basic challenges of life.
5. Confidence in our right to be happy and successful, however we define success for ourselves.
6. A feeling of being entitled to assert our needs and wants, develop our values, and enjoy the fruits of our efforts.
Self-esteem is based on the following practices:
1. Living consciously
2. Self-acceptance
3. Self-responsibility
4. Self-assertiveness
5. Living purposefully
6. Personal integrity
People with solid/healthy self-esteem deal with their challenges better (more functionally) than people with low-self-esteem.
You can improve your life. There are resources available to you. You can DECIDE what value your life has and use your time, energy, and other resources, as available to you during your existence, to that end.
Many people here are adept at providing comforting words and good counsel. But you have to take action to improve your life. No one's going to do that for you and there is no Deity-in-the-Sky who will, either.
Best wishes!