Posted by:
oldwoman
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Date: April 17, 2013 09:05AM
If I read correctly, you are not ready for your family to know or to resign but want to fly under the radar of inactivity, so in that case I think what you have written is perfect. It is succinct giving no opening that you may need "help" from him,but rather that you are fine giving the impression of "all is well" ,so don't spend time worrying about us. If there is a hint that your inactivity relates to testimony lost or sin,which sometimes is demonstrated through anger or perceived unhappiness, he will be at your hone very soon. Maybe, he will accept your response on face value or get sidetracked with more pressing needs, but I doubt it. If you respond defensively, he will think there is a big problem ( sin/offense)and must become more aware of the reason for inactivity post haste; therefore, more involved .However, as you well know, you are now no longer under the radar and will be discussed in ward council as to your inactivity and need for reactivation. So, get ready for the love bombing to begin; the executive secretary to call for appointments, the home teachers and missionaries to be at your door, the cookies on the door step. Just maybe, after enough attempts to engage you fail because you are "so busy" to keep appointments made etc.,other more pressing needs such as Girl's Camp will take over focus. If not, then you will have to be more forthright in where you truly stand. Only you know what is best for the whole of your family at this juncture in time. Isn't it tragic, we have to manipulate to keep peace? Not an authentic life, for sure. Each of us has to decide whether we want an authentic life or just play the game to survive another day. Being honest can be painful because we were indoctrinated ,so well ,in the church ,to spin everything for the greater good and happiness of all involved.Good luck.