Posted by:
Surrender Dorothy
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Date: April 18, 2013 02:05PM
Well, SusieQ, I'm very sorry they bothered your husband when he was sick. No one should have boundaries disrespected, and some Mormons have no respect for boundaries. I understand your wanting to protect your husband from being bothered in his own home.
But imagine for a minute that the boundarylessness back then was happening on a daily basis or weekly basis and coming from people close to him, maybe even from other people in his own home. Imagine that it's not just the irritation of intrusion but outright verbal attacks on his character and he no longer has a safe haven. How long would you have left the sign up then? To what lengths would you have gone to protect him?
Many people here do not have a safe haven in their own homes. They have nowhere to go, so they come here and mock with like-minded people and in a more innocuous way than you did. You actually told the missionaries something that no one but you and your husband were supposed to know--your new name--yet you would shame them for doing something less "disrespectful" than what you did. Where's your empathy?
These pictures don't go to the extreme that you did. People have seen those clothes, but no one but you and your husband (and some temple workers) knew your new name until that sign.
For you to make the excuse that you were protecting your husband by revealing sacred information and claim that's not disrespect yet try to shame people who are trying to protect themselves and, possibly, their families by laughing at someone else's "disrespect" of the now-well-known temple clothes is the height of hypocrisy.
I did not remember that your motivation to use the sign was because your husband was sick at the time. You have posted the story multiple times on threads about getting the missionaries to stop harassing people, so I decided to do a search and re-read your previous telling of the story.
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From a post by you on October 13, 2012
"emma: Re: A possible cure for unwanted contact ..... I have a 100% guaranteed cure - My Door Sign! :-)"
http://exmormon.org/phorum/read.php?2,670388,672325#msg-672325"Hubby was a bit annoyed with the pestering missionaries and told me to 'take care of it' when they called. So I did. One in particular would call when he was busy and demand to speak to him because they claimed they wanted a ride to and from an appointment and wouldn't accept my answer, that my husband was busy and couldn't help them anyhow.
Besides, they had bikes, it was nice weather, they could ride there in just a few minutes and I told them that. Even gave them directions. But, they had a lot of excuses about how that wouldn't work. For some reason, they had the idea that they could call my husband anytime they wanted a ride and he would stop what he was doing (or leave work) and help them. That was not going to happen.
My hubby saw the sign, thought it was a little bit extreme, but like I also said, I only used it once - just a few days-- until those missionaries came back again, which I knew they would. Then I took it down because it fulfilled it's purpose and I had a good laugh! :-) "
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In this telling, you state your husband was busy, not sick, but I understand it would be impossible for people to tell every detail in every post. However, the last line is that you "had a good laugh! :-)" You thought revealing your new name was funny. THAT. IS. MOCKING.
With a heavy-duty dose of mocking under your own belt, your scolding and shaming people here for mocking a corporation that caused and continues to cause them pain is off-the-charts hypocrisy!
You have your story. Your experience with TSCC was not as painful for you as it was and is for others here, and that's awesome for you. Others here are not so lucky. Empathy is a fantastic thing. It helps others heal and, at the same time, expands our own understanding. Maybe a bit more empathy and a bit less tsk, tsk-ing for those whose experiences are different from our own is worth considering.
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 04/18/2013 02:08PM by Surrender Dorothy.