Posted by:
anonmouse
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Date: April 17, 2013 11:27PM
Ok imagine you are so ill you can hardly keep any fluids down and barely any food, you've lost 8lb in a week, you are so weak you can barely rise from bed. constant nasuesa and vomiting up to 10 times day. you have 2 young children and also work full time as the main bread winner, you are on the verge of personal insolvency but if you can keep your job and keep working you might just by being careful avoid this, however with this illness which will go on for many months yet this will no be possible. You did everything you could to prevent this illness as you desperately didn't want it to happen again....The aftermath of the illness is much more work than money than the illness it's self..... a baby.
I have found myself where i never thought i'd be - with an unwanted pregnancy. I was actively preventing but sadly 99.9 means that 0.1% it fails for - and i happened to be that unlucky. for the first time in my life i am not relgious and i have a new option open to be - termination of the pregnancy (it's still early not even a 1 cm big yet). yet i still feel guilty, and can't get all the mormon(well most peoples) thoughts of what i'd be doing out of my head.
my reasons for are: i can only afford 2 - financially, emotionally and physically my body just breaks down when having kids and what i mentioned above is only part of it. My husband says its my body and he understands my reasons for ending but i think he still kind of wants it, but no one understands how hard this is unless they have suffered with the same conditions - lets just say i feel suicidal at times,
At night it's all i can dream about babies and stuff and when people here that i'm sick the first thing people say ohhh are you pregnant? i just wanna punch them in the mouth. I can in my own head only go though with it before i'm 8 weeks which is soon , but this is not a choice to be made lightly, as i told my husband it's now or never i'm never going through this again and if he doesn't get his nuts tied i will get my overies done (more expensive)
Has anyone else been in this position? what choice did you make? how did you feel whichever way you went? I'd appreciated no personal attacks, i'm quite delicate mentally at the moment.
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 04/17/2013 11:29PM by anonmouse.