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Date: April 22, 2013 05:19PM
I totally agree--prepare a list of questions in advance and have it on hand (you could solicit a list here if you don't have one of your own already... In fact, that might be a good way to edit it and pare it down to the most material questions--you'll want to let him know right off the bat that you are informed and not just another sheep).
I also think that a digital voice recorder is a very good idea. You never know when it may come in handy... (Whether or not you "use" the transcripts at a later date--of course, you would want to inform yourself about legal issues first...)
Finally, I totally agree that this is your turf and he is the one who should feel intimidated etc. You are not there to answer his questions (particularly if they are personal or what have you). He is there to "minister" to you, so feel free to put him on the spot and demand answers from him.
Nervous? Don't be... Check this link out:
http://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_shapes_who_you_are.htmlIn any case, be pleasant enough, but don't back down. I assume you may genuinely want to know what he has to say if you pursue a Q&A with him... I would.
Who invited the FIL?
Good luck! This may prove to be a unique opportunity... (BTW, if you don't feel like asking questions than I would recommend participating as an observer/anthropologist and being quite clear about not exhibiting any deference to this self-appointed "leader". Draw a firm line in the sand, politely, but make sure it is firm. You are under no obligation to answer any of his questions, should he be so stupid and invasive as to ask any.)