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Date: April 25, 2013 02:19PM
My wife and I have not been to a cult indoctrination session for over two years. Neither of us believe in the mormon church anymore, but my wife refuses to wear any underwear other than her "holey" mormon garments. It's been a long time since she has gotten new garments, they have so many holes and are literally falling apart. She's constantly complaining of being too hot in the summer, to which I tell her, you won't be nearly as hot without garments on. For my last birthday, I requested that she didn't need to get me any presents, but the one thing that she could do was have a whole day without wearing garments. She couldn't even go a measely 24 hours, for me, without them. I've suggested that we go underwear shopping for her, and once we actually did, but "nothing else seems to work." Whenever I bring it up, we get into an arguments, so I've learned to try and leave it alone.
Recently, my wife got a new job where she is learning to provide non invasive medical treatments to various parts of the body (eg. shoulders, trunk area, legs and feet). Currently, she is still training for this and part of the training will be practicing these procedures with the other trainees. Due to the need for accessing each others treatment areas they have asked her to come to the training wearing a tank top and then later wearing a 2pc swimsuit. The way she was talking about this was like they had asked her to strip for them and she said there was no way she was going to wear a tank top for them, let alone a swimsuit.
The other day, while driving her to work, (I made the near fatal mistake of shaking the hornet's nest) and asked her why she thought it was okay for her to not comply with her employers request. She turned my question of why she won't wear a tank top for her employer into, "You've wanted to get me out of garments for years. Even though we may not believe in the mormon church anymore, I still believe in modesty." So, I asked her what's the big deal about wearing a tank top. Her reply, "It feels to me like I'd be stripping naked." I then asked her, if when our 10 year old daughter grows up and starts wearing tank tops in the summer, will she be okay with that. She then says she needs to be setting a good example for our daughter. To which I say, wearing a tank top is not immodest. Her comeback, you start wearing tank tops and before you know it you're wearing something strapless. Oh yes, the old, start out with a tank top and end up making a living as a stripper in a back alley joint on the other side of town argument.
I'm really trying to be patient and understanding with my wife, but I think she's a mormon garment addict and her modesty issues are overblown. I really need a woman's prepective who's been through this to help me understand what my wife is going through.