Date: April 27, 2013 09:41PM
It happens, probably to everyone on some level. The church portion, just makes it... so much more.
When I left mormonism, I also left my TBM husband (not that I am advocating it, it was what was right for us) I realized I didn't love him, I never had, I never would, I married him because he was the TBM my dad liked, and I was 20, and he was a returned missionary, and that is just what you do at that age, we even broke up once right before we got engaged... I even knew the day of the marriage, it was wrong. The night before I almost called it off... he said the day in the temple, he knew too.. we were both... well, just doing our "duty."
He married me (he told me this) because he lusted after me, and never loved me either. .... but he didn't want to divorce because of the church stigma attached. Really? SO, I did it. Now he's married to the TBM he wanted with 2 kids, and I am much happier with the man I love who is an atheist like I am.
SOrry, self indulgent there....
my long point just was that we all do it. We see what we want, we make decisions with our emotions, and sometimes those decisions are good, sometimes, they haunt us. But there comes a point where that emotional fog dissipates and we see through the clouds... then, we have to figure out if what we have is worth saving or if a reality check is in order.
(Ps- for us it was easier- no kids. I know now I never wanted any... he did. He deserved to have what he wanted, and so did I- so I let him go.)
Edited 3 time(s). Last edit at 04/27/2013 09:44PM by intjsegry.