Posted by:
schlock
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Date: June 03, 2013 03:03PM
I see your point WW.
And for me the ideal is this: When people have chosen to spend a good portion of their life together, it's not so much feeling lucky that keeps them together, rather a sense of contentment and security and belonging. A partnering and pooling of ideas and resources and effort.
"Feeling lucky" about being in a relationship with another person hints of an unequal balance of power - I don't like that - my first wife (TBM) was forever throwing in my face how "lucky" I was to be with her. Nowadays, I realize just how "lucky" I am to be out of her life - best "luck" I ever have had in my life, in fact.
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And as an aside: Studies are also hinting to another interesting facet of human life, women may be biologically less disposed towards monogamy than are their male counterparts. "Strange" might be more of an aphrodisiac for women than men. Interesting.
"One of our most comforting assumptions, soothing perhaps above all to men but clung to by both sexes, that female eros is much better made for monogamy than the male libido, is scarcely more than a fairy tale."
http://www.salon.com/2013/06/02/the_truth_about_female_desire_its_base_animalistic_and_ravenous/