Posted by:
intellectualfeminist
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Date: June 04, 2013 03:53PM
It's been quite a while since I've posted on RfM but every now & then some issue comes up that I have to vent about, and this one just came at me yesterday.
Brief personal synopsis: I was raised Catholic, joined TSCC at 19, after 22 years of it finally wised up and got the hell out. Ex husband is TBM, his 2nd wife is TURBO TBM. Our daughter is 20, Berkeley student, very NOM, very feminist, very NOT Molly in any way. Our middle son just turned 16, our youngest son is almost 13.
So, to get to the point. Yesterday evening, my ex informs me that he enrolled our 16 year old in EFY at BYU. I told him I found it unacceptable that he would enroll our child in a weeklong out-of-state religious camp without my knowledge or consent. The high-handed arrogance and lack of boundaries is so ingrained in TBMs that he was literally taken aback by my pointing that out to him. I also told him that I had made some summer plans with our kids and that this conflicted with it, PLUS the fact that I don't agree with the hardcore indoctrination of the youth made it another no-go for me.
The discussion did get a little heated; I try to keep calm when dealing with Mormon-related issues, but when it comes to our family members, it's easy to get upset/emotional about it. Anyway, I told him that I'd look into the EFY program a bit more, since I know so little about it, but that I refused our son permission to go unless I approve it.
So, RfM'ers....what can you tell me about EFY at YBU? I checked out the website already:
http://ce.byu.edu/yp/efy/I'd appreciate some feedback from those who have had personal experience! And another important thing; I'm talking to my son and get his feelings on the matter. This is just another thing the youth are pressured to do, and this pisses me off almost as much as the new 18 year old missionary push.