Posted by:
freebird
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Date: June 11, 2013 01:23PM
She responded to my email requesting the VT to stop. She was slightly passive aggressive. She claimed she didn't call me to respond because, "you can't see tears through an email".
She then admitted that I had told her from day one that I didn't want a VT, and that she had asked to be friends and that she had not kept that promise etc..
I was impressed that she admitted that. She knew damn well that I had said NO VT and she did it anyway, deceitfully. I was just surprised she admitted it.
Then she said how much she loves me and cares about me and that church is a huge part of her life and of course she wants to share that with me.
She also said she's confused. Since church is such a big part of her life, how do we work around that? Which seemed code for I'm not going to remain your friend. She said she doesn't know how we could be friends if she can't talk about church, well she implied that.
DH then had the nerve to try to make me feel guilty. He asked why I had done this (he knew full well) and what's the big deal in her reporting our lunches as VT when I'd stated I didn't want a VT. I was so mad at him! About a year ago I told him I thought she was secretly VT me and he told me, "oh she would never do that!" He claims to not remember that conversation and even though he ended up telling me to do what I needed to do, I'm left feeling like he thinks I'm wrong. That upsets me. I have trouble standing up for myself and when I finally do he makes me feel like a mean person.