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Date: June 15, 2013 02:52PM
Everyone is going to figure out who this is, but I'm going to have to post anonymously about it anyway. Also, due to heavy duty personal problems, this will be my last post in the unforeseeable future. What I'm about to write no one can help me with.
I am having cog dis about the abuse I have suffered through & continue to suffer through. I know it's abuse, but I try to rationalize it away. I try to say that it isn't that bad, that I deserve it, or that it isn't abuse at all. I have tried to get help in the past, and have either been very afraid & backed out, or I was turned away. Right now, the emotional abuse is so bad, I want to kill myself and be dead. I tried to get help, I tried to use the online chat for suicide prevention, but they acted like nothing was wrong. Because what I go through isn't as bad as what other people go through, I constantly rationalize that what happens to me isn't abuse at all, and also that I'm not worthy of even being helped. That I will be turned away from being helped because of my situation. I haven't been hit or beaten in almost three months, but it doesn't matter. (I'm beaten only several times a year, sometimes with years in between without being beaten, but the mental/emotional abuse is daily.) I have a very thick skin, and hardly bruise. Physical abuse is hard to prove. All of it is hard to prove. I have been told that no one will believe me. Right now, that seems like the case. I have been told that I'm not being abused at all, but am the abuser. When I called them out on the abuse, I said for them to stop gas lighting me, & they said I was gas lighting them. They said they would have me arrested for abusing them, and even make up false charges to make things look worse. They also said that they were going to have me committed to a psychiatric facility. This person has been telling me for years they don't want me in their life, yet they have mentally beaten me so far down, that I have to stay where I am. Also, any time I make plans to try to change my life, they tell me I'm going to fail, so it's best not to even think about it. Then they tell me that they never said anything to the effect, and that all of my negativity is internal and not coming from them - that I'm the one holding myself back. They also say that I don't need a degree, something I've been working on part time several years now. This abuse I'm going through has sabotaged my health, my ability to hold down a job, my education, & my ability to make friends. I have absolutely no friends whatsoever, and that isn't going to change anytime soon. I have tried to get other help, welfare/EBT & such, but because of a technicality, I don't qualify. The person abusing me wants me to be ruled mentally incompetent so that I can be on SSI, so that they can be the one getting the money.
I am not a good person, I am a horrible person in fact, and I have made really bad mistakes as reactions to the abuse, and to how bad my life is in general. They all reflect negatively against me in the worst ways. Because of my mistakes, I feel as if I deserve everything bad that happens to me.
I am never going to get out of this hell that I created for myself.