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FoxyLizard
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Date: June 16, 2013 07:12PM
Hello everyone. I'm new here, and I stumbled upon this site looking for some sort of help. I apologize if this is in the wrong place or if I do something wrong, but I don't have anywhere else to turn.
Ok, here it goes: I was raised Mormon. Baptized when I was 8, went to church quite a bit, went to youth group and all that jazz. My parents are devout Mormons (but to be honest, they're also very open-minded). However though, I've honestly never believed in the church. I've developed doubts, and they've only grown stronger over the years. One thing that's always bothered me was the intense restrictions: no coffee, no tea, absolutely no dating before 16 (and when you've started dating, they must be double or group dates. Or so I've always been told), etc. By around 13 or so I've grown to resent the church because it felt that they were trying to control my life. It felt like whenever I wanted to do something fun (that did NOT involve drugs, sex, or alcohol), it wasn't allowed. I also felt that they were intentionally trying to make church my life, like the only thing my life revolved around was church. I mean think about it: church for 3 hours on Sunday, early morning seminary study every weekday, youth group.
But then after that I started to resent the church even more. Every time I missed church, even if if was just ONCE, I would get a million texts or emails or whatever from church leaders asking me what happened and if everything was ok and why I wasn't there and they miss me and yadda yadda yadda. And days where I didn't feel up to going to youth group or whatever (like if I was "sick"), I'd get messages from leaders asking if I needed them to give me a ride over there, or even they'd be on their way to get me, without me even wanting to! What's the point of going when I have no interest or desire to go in the first place? What does that teach me?
Anyway, enough with the rambling. I'm still young, but I'm not young enough to not make my own decisions. I've read all of the things in the Mormon books/pamphlets/whatever, but I still don't believe in any of it. My dad has had a suspicion that I don't believe, and he came to talk to me about it a few months ago. I told him the painful truth that I don't believe in it anymore (painful because I didn't want to hurt my dad's feelings). He said that its ok, that he's not mad at me and that he still and will always love me no matter what. He said he won't force me to go to church, but he will invite me occasionally (which I'm fine with, because it's easier to say no that way). My mom found out. She didn't take it as well as my dad did (she's gotten into arguments with me about it, which my dad doesn't like her doing). But she stills loves me and accepts me.
So my real problem here is, I haven't gone to church on a long time. I keep getting text messages from the leaders, and they won't leave me alone. The bishopric keeps sending me cards all the time, and only to me. One of the leaders was persistently texting me asking when she can come over to my house to talk to me. There were mormons my age who were in my class who've shamed and yelled at me in front of my friends because I don't go to church. and now, the leaders got me something, and they asked my dad to get my close friends and my boyfriend involved with it. I politely told him that I didn't want my friends involved (mostly because they wanted their contact information). But it turns out that they went behind my back and made my dad contact them on Facebook about it and got them involved with it. That is very creepy, unnerving, and definitely embarrassing.
So to all of you ex Mormons out there, I need your advice. I am being constantly harassed by people because I don't believe the same way they do. It's honestly gotten to the point where I'm scared to go out because they always tend to show up and cause a scene wherever I go. Has this happened to you? How do I get out of it? I want to leave it all. But I don't know what to do or where to go. Please help me.