Posted by:
ExBOMreader
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Date: June 20, 2013 11:08AM
A few years ago, my 13 year old daughter spent the night at her friends house - a friend she met from her English class at her middle school. Play afternoons at the malls turned into slumber party's. My TBM ex and I were going thru a divorce at the time. I had no control over where she let my baby go. I begged my ex, "Please don't let her stay overnight there on your time...please..he is single, we don't know them, it's not a good situation." Do you know what she said, "Look, paranoid, I am a good judge of character..he treats our daughter like his own...I FEEL good about him (translation - the spirit makes me feel good about him)..and I know you are full of it and he's safe."
Turns out, he began raping my baby on the 2nd over night, first with drugs..., then with hard core maniuplation, fear, etc. This went on for two years under our noses. Now she suffers from PTSD, can't go to sleep w/o Trazadone, had to be taken out of school last year. In the past year, there has been an investigation, which uncovered six turobytes (spell) of porn (equal 60 DVDs per Tbyt). We just won a full order of protection. The prosecutor has the case now.
I understand how you feel. I am man, a big man, 300#, 6', Bench press 400 still in my mid-40's, former collegiate powerlifter. The perp is a little guy. I cannot you how difficult it was for me to sit back and hear my baby testify in court about what he did to her. I found out about this many months ago. I had to go to counseling to deal with my anger. I had to be put on medication. I can tell you - the feelings that I have are still present. I have no tolerance for those who abuse children, e.g. Joseph Smith and Helen Mars. I think what you and I are feeling is normal. It will help, most likely, when both are behind bars. Those two, yours and mine, are our baby's - that's why we feel anger. They may be teenagers, but their children still. I view her as my little girl, and I always will.