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Date: June 21, 2013 01:07AM
YouTube search James Randi, he's a world reknowned debunker of fortune telling, among other things.
Patriarchal blessings are nothing more than fortune telling. They use the same methods. They make predictions that would 1) likely occur anyway, and/or 2) are general enough that anything that happens seems to fulfill the prophecy, and/or 3) some are self-fulfilling prophecies that prompt you to take action in favor of the prediction, and/or 4) some are already apparent and they are "predicting" something that has already happened or is apparent will likely happen.
5) There's also the escape clauses- that if it doesn't happen it's because you didn't believe in it strongly enough or did something wrong, or the lord is testing you and making you wait...maybe even until the "next life".
That...pretty much covers all the bases so that statistically it is inevitable that one or more "predicted" outcomes must occur.
Also, there's a known observed bias that 6) once we are tricked, we are able/willing to accept many subsequent wrong answers after only one right one. And, 7) if we have some psychological need to, we simply overlook gaps and holes.
I too have clauses in my blessing that, sure enough, happened. But, all of them are explicable using some combo of #'s 1-7 above. My blessing is about 75% correct. The remainder isn't dead wrong, it's just ambiguous. Obviously that's unlikely for someone that knew NOTHING about me, but my patriarch knew enough about me personally and enough about what was likely to happen simply because I was at a certain stage of Mormonism...that now 75% seems like sheer guesswork when you factor out the effects of #'s 1-7.
Blessings and other advice from church authorities caused me a fair amount of anguish. For example, for about a year, over 10 years into my marriage, I fretted that I had married the "wrong person" and therefore even had the wrong kids...as if such a thing were even possible. This was because my blessing said that "upon my return" from a mission I'd find a companion and marry in the temple. Well, I turned down two offers (that I deemed inappropriate even by church reckoning) pretty much immediately after my mission, and ended up marrying about 3 1/2 years after my mission. Then years later something petty caused me to second-guess my marriage and I wondered if I had screwed everything up by not marrying one of those first two...but which one?
To me that's the fundamental injustice of patriarchal blessings...that they are deemed as binding by believers, that they're not only from god, but a COMMANDMENT from god. At some point, at least, you find yourself worrying whether you are in compliance, and worse, maybe thinking there's no way to fix it.
I recommend the movie "The Invention of Lying" with Ricky Gervias if you haven't already seen it. The moral of the story is that there are things not even God can tell you to do.