This is from a seventeen year old's post urging us to move on--
Get Over It, Exmos, Dream Big! Act Big!
http://exmormon.org/phorum/read.php?2,940677So you want to be a researcher?
Doesn't that mean you would approach your theory without assumptions?
How about the assumption that you, an individual so young he has never even lived alone, can provide helpful advice for people who have been learning life's toughest lessons FOR DECADES.
There are people on this board who have experienced the psychological equivalent of Auschwitz.
You do not know what you don't know on the emotional live. I am sure you understand the vast body of knowledge unknown to you on the intellectual level or you wouldn't even go to college. You would just assume that your tinkering with computers and reading on the internet plus your high IQ has given you all that you need to be competitive in the technical workplace.
You wouldn't presume to tell someone with a broken computer
"FIX IT! The world of the internet is out there waiting for you!
Because it's obvious that if they could, they would. They are not qualified to diagnose and fix a computer, but you are because that's your passion and you've studied it.
It seems very easy to you at your point in life to discard Mormonism without a backward glance, figuratively dusting yourself off. It's the EASY button from Staples! That wasn't hard at all--and look at these adults moaning and groaning.
Get over it, exmos, here is my story, just look at me for inspiration!
Due to your youth, you have an undeveloped EQ (Emotional Quotient). You don't recognize the inappropriateness of your comment in this forum. Let me give you a piece of advice from someone who worked as headhunter in Silicon Valley:
Most smart computer savants never achieve a fraction of what they could because they don't understand one fundamental truth:
No one succeeds alone. The day of the Lone Ranger is over.
The first thing Linus Torvalds after changing out of his bathrobe and coming out of his bedroom, where he had been for eight years, was to invite others to participate in keeping his brainchild, his Linux OS current and relevant.
You will emerge from your foreign college and, chances are, you will be picked up by a startup, or form one. You will work as a member of a team.
This is where you will need to be proficient in your social skills. You will need to share your vision, your passion, your solutions and ideas with others because without the buy-in of your superiors, venture capitalists, peers, partners, your ideas will not be implemented.
Or, worse yet, (and I have seen this), your ideas will be recognized BUT NOBODY WANTS TO WORK WITH OR AROUND YOU. Because you give off arrogance and are disrespect. At seventeen, you aren't really receiving the negative feedback this would produce if you were an adult, because immature behavior is excused in the immature.
There is slack given in consideration of the youthful hormonal arrogance that allows a young man to kick off into a scary and dangerous world. You are being given that slack right here, right now. And you may not realize it. You may think that you will go forward in life completely unaffected by being cult imprinted and brainwashed for your entire life.
Not realistic, my friend. Rain falls on the evil and the good alike.
The smartest thing you can do, and it just may not be possible, is to recognize that your contempt for adults is hormonal and temporary, given to you by nature to help you leave the nest. Without it we would all still be living with loving parents.
Let's go with the left side of your brain with reality based on actual probabilities. Is it more or less likely that a person who has lived through a cult childhood (only) will have a helpful perspective for someone who has suffered through childhood, adulthood, middle age (including leadership) as a Mormon?
Who is more likely to teach you something you don't know? A person your age or a person twice your age?
Isn't it more likely that the thousands of people looking at this board on a daily basis are experiencing some need for support? Perhaps leaving Mormonism and choosing to move on could be harder than you think? The evidence of the popularity and longevity of this board would suggest that a diverse group leaving Mormonism experience adjustment problems which are unique to those leaving Mormonism. And they receive something here.
You might ask what that might be instead of telling people you don't know to stop supporting one another and just move on.
A less cocky person might have curiosity about that.
For example a childhood of cult brainwashing might create lifelong psychological problems that could be addressed and mistakes avoided....and that the people here could actually help you be aware of the symptoms and check those tendencies if you see them popping up. We could tell you some things you don't know about your future as an exmormon in a family of Mormons.
Unfortunately, you are ignorant of what you are ignorant of.
I had nine children. Half of them were male and raised in Mormonism. The other half were not. The males raised in Mormonism have unique problems, which they attribute to a Mormon childhood. They were all your age or younger when I left Mormonism. Now one is dead, the other missing, a third insane and a fourth is an alcoholic.
But none of that could happen to you, because you Dream Big. They had big dreams too, I can assure you, and Mormon-thinking crippled those dreams.
If you were humble and came here asking for information on how your mental cult indoctrination might hamper you in the future, and what to do to overcome it and avoid pitfalls, many of us could tell you.
But, since you are here to inspire us, I'll just thank you for the advice that I should just "Get over it."
Best of luck
Anagrammy
PS. Here's some ideas for your next screen name-- "havemorelight"