Date: July 11, 2013 07:48PM
Hi all -- I have been here for some time. I left the church about an year ago while my DW is still active. We are processing things out. One of the challenges I have to process is how our relationship has evolved. Our marriage, maybe as any other marriage, has its ups and downs. I have kind of felt that I got married almost to the fact that she is a uber-mormon. Okay, now the picture is a bit different. I used to be a uber-mormon as well. With that in mind, our interests were perhaps heavily invested in the church and little in ourselves. Now I realize we have little in common. I am careful not to step into mines. I find it unhealthy. For example, we had some specific marital issues that we struggled for many years, and she is determined to work it out. Fine, I am willing to push in the effort. But, if I drink a sip of alcohol, the marriage will be over. Is that a bit of an overkill? And, she still have hope that I will return even though she said she kinds of accepted the new me. Okay. She also tells me that she forgives me for leaving the church. That was also a bit awkward. I don't believe I did anything wrong, but I have to think in her shoes, because she thinks otherwise. I feel that we are becoming two diverging individuals, though we are trying to make it work. I am willing to hope that things might work along the road, albeit with reservations. Perspectives and/or suggestions?
Befuddled in Kharkdom