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Mother Who Knows
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Date: January 15, 2018 04:22PM
Wolfunderfire, you are NOT paranoid or delusional.
Keep reading RFM. Here, you will find information about the Mormon "strengthening the members committee" and the new "discussion groups" in the RS and Sunday school. These groups openly discuss people in the neighborhood who are apostates or "less active." They name names. Privacy is not a consideration. If you feel that the Mormons are ganging up on you, they probably ARE! After my children and I resigned, the Mormons stalked and harassed me for several years, trying to get my children's phone numbers and addresses.
Older Mormons are called on couples missions. One couple I knew in our ward had a mission to track down inactive Mormons on the computer, using Facebook and other sites, and using a people-finding program that the FBI and CIA use. They saw a photo of my son water skiing in California with a Mormon friend. They contacted the Mormon friend, who gave them my son's information.
Whatever you are observing and feeling about Mormons, it's just the tip of the iceberg. My first boss and mentor in Utah told me, "Avoid doing business with Mormons." I have done so, and have kept my business honest, and running smoothly, and everyone gets along very well. Our non-mormon clients are great. However, I also am part of a family business, and our Mormon bishopric nephew stole over a hundred thousand dollars from the company. You are right to not feel safe, at least until you get to know someone for a while. You are new, so you don't have the benefit of trying out new friends over a length of time.
Not all Mormons are bad, and not all non-Mormons are good. Pick and choose your friends on the basis of who they are as an individual.
Also, a friend can be a near-stranger who shares your same interests. I have tennis friends, ski friends, music friends, here in SLC, and I don't even know what religion they are. I also don't know if they have a criminal history. I don't need to know these things, because I'm just playing with them. I'm not leaving them alone with my children, loaning them my car, loaning them money, or doing business with them.
The idea is to not let Mormons CROSS THE BOUNDARIES. Don't give them a key to your apartment. Don't let strangers in there to check out the place. Don't reveal personal information.
Enjoy people in the moment.
If you need a support system--there are doctors, nurses, fire-fighters, police, AA-type support groups, RFM and other online groups, Christian groups, and groups like the Hari-Krishnas.
Be patient. You might not have to move very far. Salt Lake County has a lower percentage of Mormons than Utah County. Park City is great, but expensive. Sugar House has fewer Mormons, but the demographics there are changing. If a neighborhood or an apartment building has dwellings that all look alike, that's an indication that it's mostly Mormon. Neighborhoods closest to the city center, closest to a university, older houses, more smaller houses, and the most expensive neighborhoods, have the lowest saturation of Mormons.
If you're in a rural area, look at some of the surrounding towns. For example, Midway is very Mormon and very backward (there are even old feuding Mormon families there). 20 minutes away, is lively Park City. Stay away from St. George, but Cedar City, an hour away, is nice.
I'm on a blacklist. I tried to resign quietly, and I'm a good person, but the Mormon neighbors are shunning me, anyway. The only Mormon friends I have are from childhood. Even most of my TBM cousins are shunning me. I sold my share of the family business. I'm better off not having Mormons in my life.
Sorry to ramble. I haven't even started on my children's stories of Mormon abuse, gossip, manipulation, and shunning. They were strong, and overcame it--but that unhappiness was unnecessary. I couldn't afford to move, and couldn't afford a private school. Darksided and Babyloncansuckit are right. As a group, Mormon children are evil.