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Posted by: wine country girl ( )
Date: July 26, 2013 10:49PM

1.Convince her that sex is only for marriage.

2.Convince her that any sex outside of marriage is sinful and is not allowed by God.

2.Convince her that this includes the very natural act of masturbation.

3.Convince her that engaging in any sex (outside of marriage) will make her feel “dirty”.

4.Convince her that marriage should only be in a Mormon Temple.

5.Convince her that marriage in a Mormon Temple can only happen if she is sexually pure.

6.Convince her that any sexual feelings she may have, are sinful.

7.Convince her that any sexual feeling she may inadvertently arouse in a man is her fault.

8.Convince her that if she has been raped or sexually molested, a certain portion of it is her fault.

9.Convince her that any sex within marriage must be pure and natural, not “impure or unnatural.”

10.Convince her that impure or unnatural sex includes oral sex, masturbation and anything thing that is lustful.

Edited 2 time(s). Last edit at 07/26/2013 11:46PM by wine country girl.

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Posted by: agingmale ( )
Date: July 26, 2013 10:52PM

11. Convince her to wear garments.

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Posted by: wine country girl ( )
Date: July 26, 2013 10:53PM

Oops! I forgot that one! GREAT addition!!!

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Posted by: flanders ( )
Date: July 26, 2013 10:53PM

Wow WCG, for a woman that was pretty ballsy!

Well done.

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Posted by: sstone ( )
Date: July 26, 2013 10:58PM

12. Convince her that the spirit will not be her companion if she ever feels aroused.

13. Convince her not to read any racy books, listen to any inappropriate music, or watch any R rated movies that might stimulate impure thoughts or feelings.

Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 07/26/2013 11:00PM by sstone.

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Posted by: MJ ( )
Date: July 26, 2013 11:01PM

I forget how it was phrased and it had something to do with rape, but essentially it was:

11: Convince her that losing her chastity is worse than death.

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Posted by: Silkrose (not logged in) ( )
Date: July 26, 2013 11:01PM

14.) don't make over $100,000k so she can't be a sahm and full fill her "role".

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Posted by: disobedient ( )
Date: July 26, 2013 11:09PM

Perfectly presented. I've seen this happen to sooo manny woman in Utah when I was wasting 2 years of my life. This kind of thinking destroys marriages and families. The threat to marriage is not gays and lezzes. The Damn church its self is its own threat. The proclamation to the world IS propaganda engineered by lawmakers, psychologists and psychotherapists to distract and unite the members away from the truth that the church is the real enemy causing divorces and mental disorders and children terrorfied of sex and living to be 40 year old vergins and then chastised by the church for not getting married and having babies so, in effect what the church is really saying is that you failed as a child of god, a church member, a mother, a human being, and that your good for nothing and the church DARES to lie by acting clueless as to why there are so manny suicides but wait, there not done yet because if you kill yourself your going to hell so the depression is sooooo deep and bad because if you kill yourself your still screwing up and you just can't win the game by the church because the church is messing around with the game board moving the Damn game pieces around so the church always win. WHAT A SAD LIFE PEOPLE ARE BORN INTO. No wonder they push so heavy on missionary work. Missery loves company. My apologies for ranting. Just had to get this off my chest. If its ok, I am sharing your post on my FB.

Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 07/26/2013 11:13PM by disobedient.

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Posted by: Senoritalamanita ( )
Date: July 27, 2013 12:09AM

15. Tell her that you'd appreciate it if she picked your socks and boxer shorts off the floor afterward.

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Posted by: Brother Of Jerry ( )
Date: July 27, 2013 12:19AM

As in, oops, I slipped, shouldn't have done that. Oh well, since I am going to hell anyway, I may as well take the E ticket ride to get there.

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Posted by: Otremer ( )
Date: July 27, 2013 12:22AM

I've always been a fan of wild and supernatural myself.

I dated some Mormon girls that were like that, but then we weren't married either. Mormon marriage seems to kill everything, not just sex.

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Posted by: lastofthewine ( )
Date: July 27, 2013 12:23AM

I would simplify the title to "How to Kill the DRIVE of a Female Mormon. (Antiquated ideas about "sex" remain central to this, however, sexuality is its own thing.)

It's not just the female sex drive/needs/ambitions that are targeted as threats, necessarily, but it is the perspective of the female gender that they want to quash.

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Posted by: gentlestrength ( )
Date: July 27, 2013 12:23AM

Some former Mormon women can be great sexual partners! That's my experience, but I'm particular too.

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Posted by: canadianbeaver ( )
Date: July 27, 2013 12:27AM

16. Create a culture where women are treated like second-class citizens.

17. Have her first experience of sex be a form of sexual abuse by someone she trusted - father, uncle, bishop, etc

18. Blame her for that abuse.

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Posted by: fluhist ( )
Date: July 27, 2013 02:32AM

19. Make sure she fulfils her "divine calling' and has a baby every 18 months to 2 years.

20. NEVER accept that this may make her sick, tired, chubby, or not interested in sex!

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Posted by: enoughenoch19 ( )
Date: July 27, 2013 02:50AM

The easiest way to kill the sex drive of a Mo woman is to try to get her in bed when you smell like alcohol or birth control around.

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Posted by: ellenl ( )
Date: July 27, 2013 02:53AM

21. Make her wear unflattering clothes in the name of modesty.

22. Keep her so busy with callings that sex is the last thing on her mind.

23. Never let her have a glass a wine or a nip of alcohol.

24. Take away any disposable income that she and her partner might use for dates.

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Posted by: Hamican ( )
Date: July 27, 2013 03:22AM

To be fair, I wouldn't want my wife going out and having sex with other guys, and I don't believe many other guys would want that either. I still believe that it isn't necessarily appropriate to have sex with other guys if that's what you have committed to.

And having an affair is rarely a good thing because of the way (yes, scientifically) hormones create bonds between partners during intercourse and whatnot, so in many cases it could just weaken the relationship (I say rarely because there are possibilities where it could be good psychologically). But just because I think this way doesn't mean I think women are dirty for doing that, I just don't believe it is a wise choice. (This also applies vice versa with females who have husbands in that position. It's not a one sided opinion)

Of course, if your husband/wife is okay with it then by all means, go ahead. I just don't like how some people are starting to act like "oh you're married? So what?! Don't be lame! Just go have sex with someone else!" I'm not saying that's what you said though. I'm sort of just venting and hijacking your thread.

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Posted by: Hamican ( )
Date: July 27, 2013 03:25AM

Btw, I am only talking about extramarital affairs. I have no problem with it before marriage. After you're married that is a choice and a commitment and the rest of my feelings are explained above.

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Posted by: Anon this time, regular poster ( )
Date: July 27, 2013 03:32AM

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Posted by: Kendal Mint Cake ( )
Date: July 27, 2013 08:33AM

Tell her that her husband will be having lots of other wives in the CK, and that she's evil if she objects.

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Posted by: Ex101010 ( )
Date: July 27, 2013 09:12AM

Wait, female mormons have sex drives?

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Posted by: quinlansolo ( )
Date: July 27, 2013 09:13AM

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Posted by: sparkyguru ( )
Date: July 27, 2013 09:29AM

While they are killing her sex drive they are taking her self confidence too and replacing it with a "you are only good enough if you are spiritual enough/ pure enough like the other sisters in the ward" basis for self worth.

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Posted by: sparkyguru ( )
Date: July 27, 2013 09:32AM


you missed a couple old ones we don't practice anymore

- marry her daughter

- force her to marry you under threat of her families eternal condemnation

Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 07/27/2013 09:33AM by sparkyguru.

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Posted by: Hugh ( )
Date: July 27, 2013 10:15AM

Right, and for that matter:

Tell her that if she doesn't, a huge angel w/ a big sword will come down and kill me (Joe). Seems like that would make things a little tense.

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Posted by: sstone ( )
Date: July 27, 2013 10:18AM

Tell her she has no choice but to have sex with you "right now" after she has waited the appointed six week period after giving birth, even though the baby was ten pounds and the ripping was so deep that she hasn't recovered enough to do the deed without severe pain.

Oh, and act like you're a martyr while you give her this spiel. Because you've waited "so long" to have sex again, and it's her responsibility to fulfill your sexual needs. Then throw in a few bonus lines about how she will never be able to have more children if she can't handle the pain, and how you're actually doing her a favor.

Edited 2 time(s). Last edit at 07/27/2013 10:21AM by sstone.

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Posted by: tapirsaddle ( )
Date: July 27, 2013 11:13AM

That's not a spiel. That's a request for a kick in the face.

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Posted by: Loyalexmo ( )
Date: July 27, 2013 10:32AM

On the other hand, while it kills the sex drive of most female Mormons--it can also make you eventually go crazy in the opposite direction. Trying to be Mormon even for a while (and I slipped up quite a bit in the masturbation department, had a few makeouts too many, and was still being spanked on the regular, which is more than I can say for a lot of TBM women in their lifetime) made me absolutely insane for about 5 months after I left. I remember the day I decided to leave. It was like a dam burst. After that I went sex crazy, even too sex crazy, for several months until I was able to feel like a normal human again. I don't know how women deal with it their entire lives. It's not so much the act of sex, that wasn't what I missed as much--it was much more about the natural erotic energy of walking around in clothes that make you feel sexy, feeling free to flirt and have sexual fantasies and entertain erotic ideas. It's a natural part of being human (unless you are asexual) and it's completely cut off. Women especially are reduced to hyperromantic, decorative children.

Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 07/27/2013 10:32AM by woodsmoke.

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Posted by: A ANON ( )
Date: July 27, 2013 11:39AM


Tell her she will be one member of her husband's massive eternal harem, and that she will be perpetually pregnant forever so that He can populate entire planets with His "spiritual children", some of whom will be hers, but most of whom will come from His other MILLIONS of wives. How else could He populate an entire planet?

Tell her the same thing that Brigham Young told his wives and the world:

"I shall have wives and children by the million, and glory, and riches and power and dominion, and kingdom after kingdom, and reign triumphantly."

-- Sept. 9, 1860. JoD V.8, Pg 178-179

Tell her that with Mormon marriage, that's what's in it for her.



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Posted by: Zip ( )
Date: July 27, 2013 11:48AM

In other words, tell her that she is privileged to be married to a future STUD-GOD!

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Posted by: ExMo Lurker ( )
Date: July 27, 2013 12:23PM

To paraphrase an ancient brutal military joke on the subject of soldiers' girlfriends:

"If you were supposed to have a sex drive, we would have issued you one!"

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Posted by: lucky ( )
Date: July 27, 2013 02:54PM

That was a great list, BUUUUUT! you just can't top a MORmON ASSpostHOLE in the arena of soul crushing oppression.

1. As a MORmON church officially designated special witness of Christ, testify in the name of Jesus Christ that sex is ONLY permissible when its done with in marriage with the specific intention of creating a pregnancy, and otherwise, even with in marriage, it is the same as committing adultery.

And remember, in a True MORmON context, (STUPID) Secret handshake based marriage is the only kind of marriage that counts.

Yup, thats what MORmON ASSpostHOLE John Henry Smith preached to MORmON members during his tenure. Noted just past the 3 minute mark in the video.

IF this doesn't prove that MORmONS are NEVER satisfied in their rabid quest to stomp ALL the joy out of life, then nothing will.
How ironic that this idiocy was spouted from the cousin of holy philanderer MORmON founder PERVERT Joe Smith. Just another superlative example of how MORmON elite operate = we get /can do what ever we want, while you regular MORmON member folk are not entitled to much of anything! ALA we were entitled to a new 5 Billion dollar mall that was defunct before it ever opened.
You were not entitled to your house that you lost, but keep paying tithing to us anyway, because its your only hope that things will finally get better for you, even as they have not.

Frankly, I am amazed that even brain dead MORmONS could listen to that incredible idiocy of J.H. Smith, and not openly revolt.
What a testament to how stupid, sick and twisted that MORmONS really are. Given the sick twisted state that they are in, If it was worth it to cut off Laban's head for what he did, then.....

Edited 2 time(s). Last edit at 07/27/2013 03:35PM by lucky.

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Posted by: schlock ( )
Date: July 27, 2013 03:37PM

25. It is the man's job to penetrate, 3-5 minutes of thrusting, climax, fall asleep, then snore.

26. Never use any position but the missionary position.

27. It is not the man's responsibility to make sure the woman climaxes during sex. Definitely not multiple times, as this would cause her to have too many lustful thoughts. In fact, it's probably better if she doesn't climax, then she won't have slutty thoughts at all. In fact, as a man, you really don't understand what function the clitoris serves at all.

28. Never fantasize, ever.

29. Never explore alternative sexual venues with your partner. Or if you're the husband, never allow your wife to explore alternative sexual venues.

30. If your husband cheats on you, it's because you're a bad lover.

31. Never use any bedroom toys.

32. Porn is filthy, sexist, satanic.

Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 07/27/2013 03:53PM by schlock.

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Posted by: No Mo ( )
Date: July 27, 2013 03:53PM

To be correct, it does not kill the sex drive of the Mormon women that I knew, and know. It just kills the sexual activity, up to a certain point.

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