Posted by:
paintingintheWIN
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Date: August 15, 2013 01:18AM
family.
ask them to put a double wide trailor on their farm for you & your family.
or put in another house on a lot for you.
did you know, that is how family, the soul of family got thorugh the dustbowl that didnt' die & survived getting here to Fresno or Bakersfield? not a Mormon style temple gig - the real thing- where family didn't let family down.
you don't need to feel anything for worthiness you've got the key you belong- you are family. You contribute rent. you are giving everything you can. It isn't easy to have the fine gifts of all those grand children or nieces and nephews to brag about- to enjoy- all those celebrations- without putting up with vacuuming up after them, cleaning up and committing to them- as your nieces and nephews or your grandkids.
don't know anyone who owns a dairy do you? dairy workers get dairy houses free rent, utilities paid. (its usually a family thing or family acquaintances get in.)
without family we've got nothing. one check from straight out homeless. & that's the truth. When my house foreclosed on my adult daughter drove out (I was so much in shock) craigs list places that would take dogs, emailed set up visits in two days did more than my frozen brain could do, walked through three places & the interviews with me lending their credibility, their financial success, their developed poise to a moment I was too low to interview for a place. My adult kids stepping in to the crisis generated a place to rent for my dogs & myself. So without family- to fill in gaps in talents for me I'd be sunk.
Its way better for the kids to stay together. despite how rough, apparently no body treats kids as well than their own family.
I know some board members don't believe that, but apparently despite tragic abusers, over all, apparently, children are treated better by family than strangers treat other peoples' kids, with loyalty, caring- that extends beyond themselves- as they care for themselves they see themselves in this family in these kids. You won't get that in fostercare or a group home its not the same. People dont' look like you. Like you know you're family, fourth cousin, great aunt, whatever, its family.
the greatest compliment someone ever paid to me is said, Ruthie, you're just like my sister. If I had a sister, I wish you were my sister.
Don't walk out because it feels awkward. Sit it out. Come to the table, make them part of planning the solution. Make them part of the phone calls, finding places, make the budget transparent make them (the other adults) part of the planning budgeting finding planning implementing positive change or leaving things just the same.
hell yea. work on increasing their commitment to family & your kids are family. & those six kids are not living on the street in a shelter or foster care because their dumb a-- wanted a more convenient couch on which to watch TV. if you get me.
You have the right to survive. Your kids have the right to survive.