Posted by:
ljj90
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Date: August 21, 2013 06:11AM
I really feel for you, because I've been through a similar situation:
http://exmormon.org/phorum/read.php?2,814807,814852#msg-814852http://exmormon.org/phorum/read.php?2,814939,816035#msg-816035The best thing to do is to be assertive, and just to say you've decided that it's not for you. I know it's hard, but you know yourself that it's not the right thing for you to do so you'd only be letting yourself down if you went through with it. After you've told them, don't open yourself up to explaining why. I received a few texts off the missionaries asking why I didn't want to investigate any more and stupidly replied, and this just lead to them trying to win me around. In the end I just said that if everything was true, they wouldn't have to force their religion upon people which shut them up for a while. After that I just ignored every text.
As for remaining friends, you will find that a lot of missionaries/members will drop you like a hot potato. Honestly though, if they're willing to do that then they probably aren't worth being friends with. Once I'd stopped investigating it was as if I was blacklisted and all of the people that were texting and inviting me over for dinner disappeared and deleted me from facebook. Saying that though, there have been 3 missionaries that have stayed in touch and who completely avoid discussion of the church. In fact one came over from Utah to the UK where I live and we met up, she's actually a really great girl. I'd say that would probably not happen all the time though. I still get voicemail messages from missionaries wanting to introduce themselves but I just ignore them, and I'd invite you to do the same.
I hope it goes well and if you need support the people here are great. I don't post on here that much but I like to sit in the background and take things in. I've learnt so much here and I'm 100% sure that saying no to the missionaries was the right thing to do :) I wish you luck in whatever decision you make.