Well, I can tell you that now that I have a kid, I miss the things I didn't do! If you live somewhere that could even remotely be considered a vacation destination, try looking up what a tourist might do. Maybe there's something around to appreciate that you've never noticed before...? if you don't live somewhere like that, drive to the nearest one! :) You could also volunteer (which would no
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When my family moved to St. George in the late 90s/early 2000s we had some firesides on this because, supposedly, local HIGH SCHOOL kids were also doing it. Like gentlestrength, I never knew anyone personally who did it, just that the local leadership thought it was prevalent enough that the YM/YW needed to have a special fireside to let them know that, yes, that is STILL wrong.
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Oh dear God. Apparently my friends/family are procrastinators. I thought I might get off scot-free on this one, but it turns out they're just a little late to the party. I'm now seeing people posting THEIR FULL 'TESTIMONIES" on facebook! WTH???? UPDATE: GAH! The comments are all things like "thanks so much! I needed to hear this!" and "You are such a strength!" and &qu
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Congratulations!!! Onward and upward :)
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So my did DAD have another family on the side! Just kidding...but seriously, they sound so similar! Mine would get up there and his voice would change into that creepy cadence where they pause and hold their first finger and thumb together like they're pinching something and they stop and re-iterate their point over and over again like its something you're supposed to memorize. He would alway
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People get married for all kinds of reasons that have nothing to do with love. Hello! This is a board to recover from mormonism which is RIFE with loveless marriages! And falling for someone while you're married is almost a given if you've been married for a long time, yes, you have made a COMMITMENT to be with one and only one person - your spouse - until you end that commitment, but that doesn
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That's really wonderful! I hope things work out for you and your wife - whether that means staying together or being able to amicably move on. Good on ya for recognizing a dangerous situation and doing the right thing.
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"BTW, it doesn't sound to me like you're in love with your friend. But even if you were, she's said "no." So that can't be an option. Unless of course you'd rather be miserable." This exactly. She helped you out of the cult - something very personal and emotional, it can easily be mistaken for love, but I don't think it was. Either way, as PapaKen already said "SHE SAI
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I can't offer much about putting together the video/documentary, but I will say you can get GREAT recording quality out of the now Canon DSLR cameras. They have the ability to also capture video in full HD. So making the movie would be as easy as finding people to interview on-camera, and renting a Canon. http://asia.cnet.com/top-5-dslrs-with-hd-video-recording-62056605.htm You can easily rent
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+10000 hahahaha
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Congratulations! If he knew what the alternative was, I'm sure he'd be thanking you himself :) Sounds like a really great kid!
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Amen to that! Living in that "trap" still...
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I feel for those men whose wives hold sex over their heads. I also feel for the wives who feel its their "duty" to offer sex. Neither sounds like a healthy relationship.
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truly82, my husband and I are resigning in the next few weeks as well and are not joining another religion either. I have recently found out that a handful of my friends were raised with no religious affiliation whatsoever and you know what? They're incredible, amazing people. I hope I can do the same for my son and you can for yours! I am so, so glad to hear that your spouse is on-board, as
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Yeah, that's what I though. I thought you had to have 50+ active priesthood holders or something...
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The best part is that now the conversation has been removed due to "controversy" and there's a whole other thread stemming now about how you're not allowed to ridicule the TSCC or put them in a bad light on babycenter. LOTS of people seem to have issue with that :) Gives me a silly grin ;)
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vh65, that is perfect. One of his adult children lives near me and I thought I would try to do something nice for them, even though we've lived less than 5 minutes from each other for the last half-decade and not seen each other once...I didn't want my gesture to seem phony or self-serving, or like "I only care about you now because of your dad's illness," but I think I will go ahead an
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Thank you Lynn. I appreciate it -- all these feelings are so new, its nice to have them validated. I did find a small way to contribute to my family by going through a bunch of photos I have of my Uncle and each member of his family. I sent them each a photo of themselves with him at either their wedding, or some other event. At least for me, photographs are a big part of how I grieve, so hop
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That's very beautiful - I've never heard that before. Thanks, CrispingPin
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But I'm not there... :( Its a slurry of phone calls, emails, and messages that I'm sort of half-involved in because I'm not toting the LDS rhetoric right now.
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It has been a very difficult past few weeks for my family. My extended family is very, very close. Maybe because my mom is "the baby", I don't really know... But a few weeks ago, my teenage cousin was killed in a car accident. His mother is an ER nurse and had a very traumatizing experience when he was wheeled in and they had to hold her down. His only brother is a Marine and lives near
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That comment really just says more about how TSCC villifies atheists than it does about your wife. Sounds like she has been conditioned to believe certain things about people who don't believe, and not that she necessarily believes that about you.
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I second this thought -- not because you're necessarily on here looking for advice, but because I find your love for your wife really moving. Like now that the you're not living by TSCC's idea of a marriage and its fake goals, you TRULY cherish your wife and family. You're with her because you want to be, and nothing else. I think making these plans with her would be a really sweet gesture an
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Oh, I'm certain he's fondling some stones...
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I would consider giving them 10% of a paycheck for that!
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Now, Mormons have some pretty screwed up views about sex, but I don't think "missionary-only" is completely true, is it? I mean, I have some very "sexually healthy" friends in the Morg who are TBM and definitely NOT missionary-only... Also, I've read the handbook cover to cover and it doesn't mention anything like that. I would guess that if a Bish/SP IS saying that, then
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Well clearly, your parents should have stopped then.
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I'm a stay at home mama with a toddler, so I read and post during naps...or some days when something is REALLY juicy, I let him watch a little TV so I can finish reading the thread (I know, how dare I?! But I did save him from going on a mormon mission, so I'm still an okay parent, right?) I tend to read anything about families -- marriages, kids, parents, etc... and offer help wherever I can
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southernutah, more than anything else, it sounds like this is breeding some serious resentment between you and your wife. I think that may be the most important issue here. Talk to your wife -- unassumingly and disarmingly -- about what this means for you and her, not just her mom. Don't demand anything or give any ultimatums, but really talk and make sure she understands that although in the en
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This is going to make me sick. "In the end, the history of the church doesn't matter because the DOCTRINE makes me happy." UMMMMM, yes, actually, it matters if your prophet and founder was a philandering a$$hole and if he set up a church that treats women as property.
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