I liked Sally Field's character in the movie Norma Rae--a woman who empowered herself and stood up against the male heirarchy and made a better life for herself. It reminded me of my struggle to come to terms with and move beyond mormonism.
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When we moved into a ward in Alabama in the early 90s, we soon realized that there was a major feud between two sects of the family who were the long-time ward members from the beginning. A bunch of people from Utah and California were moving into the ward because of an aerospace project going up in the area. It was a big competition to get the new incoming members on one side or the other. We
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I also had times when I was mormon where I had things happen that seemed very spiritual, where I thought for sure I was feeling "the spirit," something I couldn't deny. I have those exact experiences, in fact many more of them, now and I resigned my membership 9 years ago. It's criminal how the leaders take normal human emotions and turn them into something that's all about the morm
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Any news? Anyone?
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I mean, walking across the BYU campus, your gaydar goes into overdrive. And it could really seem that way for someone not real familiar with the culture. But I doubt if most of those guys are gay. I don't know how to explain it, but there are just a lot of very effeminate mormon males. But I do think there are a lot of closeted gay guys trying hard to stay that way. I know of some personal
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But I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt for the sake of argument to show how his own "logic" is f'ing stupid.
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Pecker said, "Some argue that “they were pre-set and cannot overcome what they feel are inborn tendencies toward the impure and unnatural,” he said. “Not so! Why would our Heavenly Father do that to anyone? Remember he is our father.” You're right, Boyd, he wouldn't. But Nature and Biology WOULD! Why would our Heavenly Father allow children to be born with HIV? Remember, he
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Oh what a wise aunt you have. I have found that the best thing I can do when I feel lonely is to remember all the times that I wished with all my soul that I could get divorced and make it on my own. The thought of living by myself sounded like heaven. When I remember back to that, it still is.
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One drink will make you an addict (alcoholic). He had a friend who told him that he became an addict when he took that first drink. There ya have it. Most people on the face of the Earth are Alcoholics. Well, now that I know it (I mean, I have a drink at least once a month), I'd better call LDSSS and get treatment. Morons!
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...they're all just children. Yes, I want to slap him too and tell him to grow up. I hate how Mormon cry babies are equated to spertchul persons. I have a brother like that, has always been a cry baby and still is. But now that he's aged and been a bishop, it's cause he's spiritual. Noooo! It's cause he's still the cry baby he's always been and has never grown up. Go ahead, slap him fo
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Have we heard anything from her on how her husband is doing after being hit by an IED? I think she was flying somewhere to be with him. Sure hoping for good news soon.
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I think I'll stop by and knock on the door and see if they need any help. Oh wait, I'm not worthy to be a cleaning lady. Oh, darn.
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And tell me TCOJCOLDS is the one and only true church on the face of the Earth and I should suck it up and return. Then I would check myself into the nearest mental hospital and make sure I get at least 3 independent opinions from certified mental health specialists stating that I really did see God in all his glory. Then, as soon as they give women the priesthood, I will be baptized in a heart
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But there are MANY bishops who would. What's a good bishop anyway? I can only think of a couple in all my years as a Mormon. But there are other kinds of abuse and a kind that happens all the time, from stories I've read here and my own experience, that is verbal and emotional abuse. If a bishop has a teenaged girl in his office, who has been taught that the bishop is all powerful and you com
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The one by Dan Barker (Freedom From Religion Foundation), not the one by Ann Coulter. Another one of his "Losing Faith in Faith" is really good. But, The End of Faith, is still the best from that genre. If you want to read some things that are not necessarily from an athiest perspective, but more on how early Christianity evolved into what it is, an excellent book is "The My
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This is a really good point. As disgusted as I get at times that my father has a very good scientific education and can't even begin to see through the total fraud of Mormonism, at this point in my parents' lives, there is nothing good that would come of it anyway. And especially for my mother. Her whole life, her whole being revolves around mormonism. She has absolutely nothing else in her l
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Cracked up when I followed the links to it. What is it? TSCC is on a quest to baptize every famous stripper who ever lived? Do you think BY is directing that work from the other side to be able to add to his spiritual harem?
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I hope it's OK to repost something I archived from another poster about 7 years ago. It's one of my favorite posts ever and goes right along with the subject of this thread. I have to share: ============================================================== Last December, I stepped into my own emotional foxhole. My wife was pregnant with twins, and she went into premature labor (4 months pre
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I think that's so true. There is so little demonstratable payoff for all the work and sacrifice required by the mormon corporation. Most of the "reward" comes in the fictitious mormon afterlife. So people need to believe that there is a present payoff for being mormon. They not only have prayer but they have priesthood blessings--a supernatural connection that other churches don't h
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When I was going through my divorce, and before a maintenance order was in place, my hubby was trying to smoke me out--thinking I'd change my mind if I couldn't survive without him. My car insurance had been dropped and I had 2 kids driving who didn't even know that. I was just trying to be able to buy food and buy gas to get to work. I should have let my house go then, but I put all my money i
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is to remember there's something worse... living in Utah.
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I received assurance that I had to get divorced at the Tennessee River Bluff Temple. I determined I had to make a major move at the Orange Beach White Sands Temple. The most powerful revelation ever--the one where I knew I needed to resign my cult membership came to me at Our Lady of Bridal Veil Falls. Soon after, the revelation on going back to college in my late 40s was received as I knelt t
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It's really sad if someone is getting married in the temple just to please their parents or to squelch all the rumors about them not being "worthy." Face it, temple weddings are horrid and ugly and demeaning. Couples just endure that part of it and then mostly put it out of their mind so they can get on with the real celebration and fun part--the pictures outside the temple, the lunch
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After so many years of Mormonism where you feel so fake because you're trying to look good to other people, make sure everyone likes you and seeking constant approval from church members and family, it's such a huge rock lifted off your shoulders when you can finally say, "why do I give a shit what they think." And it gets easier all the time. I care about what people I respect think
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I spent all of my teenage years believing that my dad hated me and blamed me for my sister's rape when she was 7 years old. When it happened, my dad beat me with the buckle of a belt and I have a mark to this day from that. While he was beating me he was yelling "I told you to watch her!" My mom was out of town with another brother who was in the hospital. I had recurring nightmar
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I feel the same way. Eternal life is not what we take with us, but what we leave behind that goes on. So funny how I used to think there would be no reason to live if you didn't believe in an afterlife. Turns out it's just the opposite. Life seems so much more meaningful when you think this might be the only shot we get-that it's not a big test but a gift. Mormons almost believe that the
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There were just a few Black students that I remember being at BYU in 1975. I think they were all athletes. At that time it was pretty well known that athletes, black or white, were held to a different code of conduct than other students.
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That was so much useful information. Thanks for your time in posting it.
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