I only went a handful of times- each visit I just ended up hating the whole thing even more. I felt stupid, looked ridiculous, and there was no real scriptural evidence (by evidence I was looking in the Bible because I was already having a hard time with D&C, BOM) to back up some of the weirder parts. I still haven't been able to find anything that supports women giving the blessings with oil
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LOL there will be no more play dates I assure you! I have been spent time with them as a couple prior to this and the way he was going off I am almost positive she went home and stirred the pot somehow. While he was raving like a loon I did mention that she ASKED and kept asking about it. Obviously he wasn't interested in my side of the story, I am the evil apostate. If she ever decides she wants
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So I haven't believed in the church for a few years, decided I was fully leaving this past year. I have a neighbor with kids the same age as mine who is very TBM. She knew I was struggling with the church but kept trying to get me to come back. I have avoided doing any playdates with her since Nov. because I'm going through a wonderful angry period at the church and I didn't want to cause a rucku
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newcomer maybe you missed this part of my post: his personal life and the personal life of Joseph Smith have some eerie similarites- PERSONAL LIFE as in relationships, not ministries. They were both religious leaders who did VERY different things. I am very grateful for MLK, perhaps you missed my other post about racism. But not being able to look at historical figures in their full light lea
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You're comparing apples to oranges. MLK never had a direct line to the all knowing. ^^^^^^ And Joseph Smith did? MLK lead a congregation of followers preaching the word of God. I call that a religious leader. JS lead a congregation of people to build a new church claiming he was acting on the word of God. Hmmmmn, looks like similarities to me.
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I appreciate MLK and his approach to the civil rights movement. He did more with words and peaceful actions than could have been obtained using violence. He was a brilliant man. But I cannot ignore the fact that his personal life and the personal life of Joseph Smith have some eerie similarites. At least MLK used his time on earth to serve a greater purpose of equality. All JS did was use his ti
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Why isn't this more commonly known? Are there other records that indicate actual slavery practices such as purchase records of slaves with money from church tithing?
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How about being registered at Walmart? I kid you not. My very own BIL. He got back from his mission and married less than 6 months after returning to a girl he dated for a whopping 4 weeks. Of course they had a "long" engagement of 2 months during which she made everyones life hell. Evidently, the wedding party is supposed to pay for the wedding AND provide a good wedding gift. It's wha
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This doesn't have as much to do with young as it does with STUPID. You should have a talk with your friend about child safety though I doubt it will help. More than likely she will become defensive about her idiotic choices and continue to make them.
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Timothy I was not meaning to paint UT as the perfect utopia. It certainly has many serious issues and I won't lie by saying I can't wait to move out of this state if the opportunity comes along. The racism we have experienced here came more from older Mormons who were still positive that if the gospel is accepted then a physical change occurs. Of course, I didn't know this was the basis of thinki
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I have a question for fellow RfM's who are from or have lived in the South- Is it truly so race fueled? In particular, blacks who are angry with other blacks? The reason why I ask is this for my brother. We are a mixed race family and he is currently stationed in N.C. All of our lives we were raised in Utah and rarely experienced any racism. Most often we were excluded for being a non-LDS fami
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I firmly believe that Monson is gay. I also believe that whatever toy he used last to get off got lodged up there permanently so it kind of explains his demeanor....
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I seriously thought I was the only one who pondered this. I realize every generation and culture around the world has different views on raising children but living in the Mormon bubble it seems like most mothers are too depressed to care or too broke to financially invest in that second carseat or safety net. One of my children was born with serious health issues and it was important to keep the
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Dear jamie, When making a post in an attempt to educate others it's perfectly acceptable to use punctuation and capitalization. In fact, it's actually preferred. It's also reccomended that your post make some kind of sense but for you I think we can make an exception.
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Question~ I noticed on her blog she sells something called "Choffy" which seems to be a hot drink derived from cocoa beans versus coffee beans. Call me stupid but doesn't that go against the WoW?? Ya know it being a hot drink and all??
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Awww, that's creepy! I love how her garmie top is peeking out in the photos, that means she really knows how to sex it up for her man. Along with Christmas camel toe. I also saw she offers color analysis if you live in FL. Very open-minded that one!
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You were a lot nicer than I would have been.. Kudos!
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Gotta love the Bible belt. I'm actually suprised this isn't also going in Utah.
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Congratulations! By any chance was that injury from too many handshakes and funky hugs? JK!
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I am laughing so hard....can you imagine?? And I wonder how many TBM's would "Like" or "Share" before realizing what the hell it meant LOL!! If only someone was computer savvy enough to hi-jack the account and post this I would take screen shots and frame them!
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Mormon men get to be gods with multiple wives in heaven, so you would get to be his eternal wife #2. ^^^^ And let's not forget that wife #2 is often the one stuck with alllll that laundry....
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I think the real issue is the friend. If she is a true friend she will be dissapointed by your wife turning down the invite to be in the wedding but she will support her decision because it's what's best for the Helamonster family over-all and she will care enough to want the best for your wife and your family.
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Bottom line is your BF needs to decide if he is going to be Mormon or not. You said he wants to go back to church. Great. When he goes back all he needs to do is meet with the Bishop and they will assist him in the temple divorce. Given that they are already civilly married I doubt the Bishop would object in helping him. As far as I know there is no online application process that instantly "
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Oh boy... Look it sounds to me like he is giving every excuse in the book not to commit with you. If I am totally wrong and this guy is honestly worried then he needs to figure out if he's coming or going so to speak. Either he believes the LDS religion- in which case he needs to meet with his area Bishop, write for a sealing cancellation etc- Or if he believes the church is complete BS then
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Gee, there's nothing like illustrating the evils of sex using small, innocent children. *Insert serious face of disgust here* Isn't this called grooming in pedophilia?
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I'm posting this here more as a vent and because I know that it's probably one of the few places where someone might possibly understand it. I've been inactive in the church for years, made the decision to fully leave a few months ago. I have never been happier, neither has my family. I feel like a real person again with a new lust for life that I haven't felt in so long. Then this morning I g
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Stray Mutt I think you got it exactly right. She married a con-artist and got more than she bargained for but instead of leaving to stay with family and keep her children safe (not divorcing, given laws at the time) she stayed and is now revered as the Mormon Virgin Mary. I call her that because I can't count the number of RS and YW meetings praising her as a goddess of the saints, without her lo
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I'm focused on finally finding the real me. Not the person I forced myself into in an effort to reach "celestial glory." For the first time in many years I am passionate about my life. Period. I spend time with my family without worry of our after-life together. I focus on our life now. And without any callings I have time for actual hobbies! I have quite a few but the one I spend the m
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to expect anyone to wear long underwear, slippery, slimy,uncomfortable, ugly, libido killing long johns,24/7 is so stupid. I could never do it consistently. I felt fat, and unattractive in them. It kills a woman's sense of being sexy and attractive. I always thought that was the point. That's it right there. I firmly believe part of the purpose is to smother oneself. I get so mad at myself wh
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Ruth- May 30th (?) 2008 Manti
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