Agreed, haven't thought about it like the anticipation for a wedding, but it's built up the same way. I remember how betrayed I felt when I realized how crappy being on a mission really was and how guilty I felt because obviously I wasn't being "faithful" enough or it would be wonderful. I remember how hard I tried to be "better" and how hard I worked to avoid recognizing
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So, so incredibly grateful to be out of that insane cult!
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I hate Utah too. Horrible, horrible place, although I have known some super cool people from there. They are the exceptions though, I've known a lot more self righteous assholes.
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Montana & Wyoming 1988 - 1989
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True story: When I was a sophomore I had a roommate who was an RM. She started dating a guy from her mission who wanted them to get married. Thing was, she just wasn't very attracted to him so she wasn't sure, but he had "personal revelation" that they were supposed to get married, so they went to talk to the Bishop about the situation. The Bishop told her (my roommate) that they sh
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I graduated from BYU Hawaii and get requests for donations constantly, in spite of telling them to take me off the list at least three times. I loved my time there, but no way am I donating money to them - I spent 30 years of my life paying tithing and that's more than enough!
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Mormons believe in free agency and everyone's right to choose, as long as you choose what they believe and don't ask awkward questions they don't have answers to. They honestly believe they are open and accepting and trying to deal with their completely deluded sense of the world can be extremely frustrating. If there is anything or anyone more condescending than a TBM trying to "save"
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I have a few friends and a lot of family who are still TBM. My 19 year old niece just decided to go on a mission. Her mom (my sister) and all the rest of the TBM fam are thrilled. I am trying to be happy for her happiness, however, I went on a mission and the whole thing literally makes me sick to my stomach because I now understand exactly what was going going on and I still feel guilty abou
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My recovery has been ongoing for a long time now, making good progress but it's an ongoing thing. Here's my story. I was BIC and left the LDS church for good a little over ten years ago. At times, I still get blindsided by a flash of rage and resentment towards the church that consumed so much of my life and gave me so little. Have you heard the one about the square peg, round hole? That was m
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To me, "taking the high road," does not mean pretending to be something you are not. While I don't go out of my way to rub my views of Mormonism in the faces of those who believe it, I refuse to live a lie when they are around just because it makes them more comfortable. I am happy to allow them to believe whatever they wish and live accordingly, I expect and demand the same respect for
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I was BIC and left the LDS church for good a little over ten years ago. At times, I still get blindsided by a flash of rage and resentment towards the church that consumed so much of my life and gave me so little. Have you heard the one about the square peg, round hole? That was me and TSCC from as far back as I can remember and thinking about the years I wasted trying to fit into the LDS mold of
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