So, I thought that I had told everyone in my immediate family about my resignation. Apparently, my dad wasn't really listening. Here's what happened: I called my mom today to tell her that I got called into work this morning and how it went. While we were talking, I asked her if I was invited to go out to dinner tonight with my dad's cousins who are in town from three states over. She told
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Funny you should say that. I was watching that show yesterday (I record them) and was thinking how I'd rather be a part of that family than the one I was raised in because at least they air their problems out in the open. My family just loves to keep their secrets.
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That was a great letter AmIDarkNow? I hope you don't mind that I saved it on my computer so that I could use it for future reference.
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For the past 12 years, I lived in Northwestern Arizona, right next to the California border. While living in that area, I moved 7 times and always seemed to be found by either those pesky JWs or the missionaries. In that time, I've suffered with a lot of love bombing. At one house, I saw two men peddling down my long driveaway and quickly locked my door and proceeded to take a long shower--ignori
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My family has known about my apostacy for over twenty years. In those twenty years, I have moved at least 12 times and have been harassed everywhere I go. They even put a person I used to work with as one of my VTs. The good thing about that though was that I had already told her of my apostacy, so she counted me as being visited since we saw each other every day at work. That didn't stop the mis
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I know what you are going through. My best friend is the same way. She yells at her husband about his job taking so much of his time (she doesn't work) and I feel so sorry for him--at least he supports his family. She also ignores her kids when they're home. When the kids are at school, she hides away in her bedroom and either watches a movie or reads a book. When I came for a visit for two weeks
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from Greatstanding on my original thread: "I served in the Tucson mission and lived in Safford for 7 months. It was more LDS than the Sugar House area of SLC that I called home before heading out on the mission. Missionaries in Safford were well fed and treated like royalty when I was there." ^^This does not surprise me at all. In fact, Thatcher/Safford mormons are THE mormons I w
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My cousin owns one in my hometown, but that's only because it's the only one for over 2 hours in any direction.
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madalice Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I told a Mormon that their beliefs were that of a > NOM. They asked what that was, I told them to look > it up. I said the same thing to my younger brother--only I told him what it was and I think he agrees with me.
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I loved the conversation between Steve Benson and Tom Clark where Steve was giving an analogy of the types of mormons who are in the greenhouse. That is exactly what my two best friends are like (as well as some extended family members) and it's frustrating to be around them. Great job to all who were involved in the making of this film!
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Congratulations on taking a step toward religious freedom!
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I too struggled with whether or not to resign until my parents passed away and then decided to just do it last December. It was a great feeling when I finally did it. I went ahead and told my immediate family and closest friends, but they already had known about my dissatisfaction with being in the church for the last twenty years so it really wasn't a surprise to them. When it came around to wri
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My cousin (who I went to the temple with in my introduction story) got married to a man almost as old as our parents. Her husband only converted to mormonism for her. I remember her telling me that he wasn't "the one" and that she would have to let him down, but then they went on a trip down to see our grandparents and then he suddenly was going to get baptised and became "the one&
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My little brother got married in the temple (about a 4 hour drive from where I was living at the time), so I told him that I wasn't going. My family knew of my dissatisfaction with the church and also knew I wasn't going to try to get a recommend, so they accepted my decision to not go to it. Our dad was the only one who went through with him because my mom is disabled. I almost boycotted their r
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I was having a discussion with my mom about my cousin and some of the things that she's done to kids who wouldn't sit down and listen in primary. I brought up the fact that if she had just read her primary manual, it would have told her what to do with him. I then brought up that sometimes these callings should not be given out to people who are not trained properly. (These kinds of things are es
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Yep, same thing happened to my brother when I sent him links to Mormonthink and a couple about tithing when he said he and his wife were arguing about paying tithing. I gave them to him over a month ago. I asked about it today. His response was that he's been too busy to read them. I think he's just not ready to take the plunge--even though he's admitted to me already that he doesn't believe 100
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What a great way to start off the New Year! Congratulations to all of you on your new lives.
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The wards around here were reorganized this past summer and it made a lot of people mad--since some of them will have to travel around 20 miles to their new ward instead of less than 2 in some cases. I wonder if this wasn't really a dissolution.
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Dang you guys! I haven't watched an episode since Cody's fourth wife had the new baby. Now I'm going to have to start watching them again. From what you're all saying, it's getting A LOT more interesting.
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"Guy" happens to be one of the bishop's counselors and was the first one to have told me that the bishop came by my house two days after I turned the visiting teachers away in October. I asked "Guy" to talk to the bishop for me about removing my name after that incident, since I didn't know the bishop and frankly didn't care to know him. The bishop also ran into one of my brot
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Update: I sent my letter of resignation on Dec. 16, got the confirmation that they received it on Dec. 19, and received my invitation letter and my it's an "ecclasiastical matter" on January 6 (their date was Dec.27). Yeah me! I'm technically out! Today was the first day back to work for me and one of the Bishop's men works with me. He and I were waiting for our boss to start the mee
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^ This is the most irritating thing I have been dealing with since I left. It's so frustrating having to get around that brain injury I must have suffered to have actually (gasp) left the church!
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That's because most of the TBM mormons over here move to Mesa to start their families. There aren't enough jobs to support all of the kids they pop out over here. I have to include my brother and sister-in-law in this one, unfortunately.
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Well, you see they pray about it...and then all of a sudden, they just know! Yeah right. I figured that wasn't true when the Bishop called me in as a Mia Maid president. I was on to him. He knew it would be the only way to get me back to church. I showed him though. I called all of the Molly mormons as my counselors...and then only showed up once a month. I was just trying to give them more bl
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My ex-boyfriend also had a traffic ticket that he didn't take care of before he moved back to his parent's house during the summer in between college. He moved back that next semester; thinking that he was free and clear. One evening, after he had gone to work, I received a phone call from a female police officer asking for me specifically by name. After confirming that I knew him, she proceed
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I grew up with that way of thinking, too. It was only when I left that I found out how abnormal this way of thinking was to the rest of the world.
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I have to say the first (and only) time I have ever been to Utah was two years ago. A friend and I drove up to Cedar City to go to the Utah Shakespeare Festival. It was very pretty and the people I met were very normal.
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and I don't mean to offend anyone who grew up in Utah...but over here in the Morridor in AZ, we used to make fun of the ultra-TBMedness of Utah mormons. I grew up right next to the town where SWK was raised from 3 on up, and the mormons in that town were very uppity. Maybe it was because they were our rivals, but most of the mormons in my town and a neighboring town referred to their behavior
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I'm sorry, but even as a 10-year-old, that so-called birthday present would have been disappointing. I hope they've got enough money saved up for her eventual therapy.
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ddy Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > > There are both positive and negative benefits to > porn. I agree and I am female. I watch porn (alone) and have watched it with my ex-boyfriend. It turned both of us on and taught us a whole lot of new moves. > Mankind is conditioned by society to think sex is > bad and you are forbidden to do it un
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