My husband's TBM Mother and her husband left this morning after a 6 day visit. It's such a relief to have my house back. They must have referenced "THE church" 500 times. It's annoying that they call it that, because we attend a non denominational community church, but it's so natural to them that I doubt they even realize that it's rude to say that. Some of the highlights of the
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I live in the Dallas area and we recently had a bunch of orange shirted people in the neighborhoods selling Vivnt security systems. We've lived in this house for 3 years and didn't have even 1 salesman knock since we put up our No Soliciting sign, until these guys came along. I opened the door and the guy started with "I'm not trying to sell you anything, but who's in charge of choosing yo
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I know some women don't agree with this, but I really don't believe that I'm supposed to "mother" my husband. My sister went through this with her husband. She'd quiz him about whether he had done this or that and he would have to admit (or lie). It's not a healthy place to be, in my opinion (they had a long unhappy marriage and are now divorced, btw). From what I read, you defi
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I would stop her now. Your mom isn't in charge of your adult girlfriend. That's just silly. My DH is an ex-Mormon and his mom is a TBM. Right before we got married she got mad at me because she had paid for tents for our rehearsal dinner and we didn't need them. I had tried to tell her it would be shady and we didn't need them, but she wouldn't listen. Whatever. Anyway, she started yelli
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I grew up in Utah. I've lived in several states since and there have always been many people who assume I'm Mormon. My husband works for a large tech company and while the managers probably don't care if you're Mormon, the employees on his team have worked with a few and they really don't like it. The holier-than-thou attitude is easily picked up on and when they have morale events that includ
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I see that a lot of people didn't, but I agree that your wife needs to step up and take some responsibility if she wants the dog. In our family I am the one who loves the dogs and I do most of the care for them. My husband used to do more, but as he has gotten busier, I have taken over most of the responsibility. The dog would probably be much better behaved with a walk or two. If you
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> But. again . . . one of my favourite sayings is > that "What is good in Mormonism is NOT unique; and > what is unique in Mormonism is NOT good" > I like this quote a lot. As an outsider in Utah it irritated me to no end that Mormons seriously thought they were the only ones who would help out in a disaster or do something nice for someone. These good things hap
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I grew up in Utah and after being gone for several years, I went back to watch my parents house for a few years while my dad was getting his doctorate. My parents apparently always paid to have the flag done so my mom wanted us to do it. The scouts came and we paid for it. It wasn't a big deal and it did make the neighborhood nice. I was extremely upset though, at the end of the year when
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My ex-Mormon husband's cousin calls from time to time. They were never close growing up. He almost always calls when he has something amazing to share. Most recently he called to tell us that his son returned from his mission. His call before that was 2 years ago when his son was leaving on his mission. We haven't seen that kid since he was 7 and we really couldn't care less about his missio
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I grew up in Orem. There was a restaurant doing this at one point, I think it was Hamburger World near the mall (does anyone remember that place? I LOVED it). Anyway, my dad, who was a local Christian pastor, went in and told them he was a missionary. I don't think they liked it, but they did give him a free meal. He usually put up with most of the Mormon nonsense without complaint, but he wa
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I was just thinking the other day that it had been a couple years since I've seen Mormon missionaries in our town. I drove up to my house and as I was parking I noticed two homely looking girls talking to my neighbor. Sure enough I saw their ugly nametags. My neighbor (who was laughing about the Mormons with me just last week) was waving them off and getting back to his lawn mowing. Before I
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notnewatthisanymore Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > So... You got married at 20 with a kid at 25 ;) > > Sorry, had to make a jab at Mormon "old maid" age. LOL. I guess I was an extreme old-maid. I was 25 when I got married. Looking back, that's almost too young.
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Wow, that is the exact opposite of what my non-Mormon parents told me. It's hard to get a good education and career if you start having kids right away. Why not grow up a little before getting saddled with all that??? I waited to get married until I was an old-maid by Utah standards and then waited 5 more years to have my first kid. I never, ever regretted that. I know some of my Mormon f
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My TBM MIL is married to a man who was married in the temple previously but divorced. When they got married in the temple (ugh) she knew that she was set up to be a second wife in heaven. I'm not sure why she didn't insist that he get a temple divorce from the first wife before agreeing to marry this guy. Actually, maybe she tried, I have no idea. My DH grilled her about it and asked why she'
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Another thread just reminded me of this weirdness. When my MIL comes to visit we often go out to eat on a Sunday. To us, this is normal. She has no problems going with us but will always make it clear that she isn't going to pay because it's Sunday. She does the same thing if we want to go somewhere like a zoo or something. I remember my TBM friends in Tucson doing the same thing. We're
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I personally would send a card and let that be enough. That way they aren't put on the spot to respond (possibly in a hurtful way). Maybe have the kids make a card. Hopefully they will feel bad and contact you in the future. As always, I'm amazed at the family-friendly reputation these people have. I can't imagine a situation that would keep my mom from contacting her grandchildren. Thankf
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Just following orders is no excuse. You should send it to him. Let him think about the stupidity of his behavior. I don't understand how a grown man doesn't know that's inappropriate. Most normal people know these things. Stupid cult.
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Do you a Living Will and Power Of Attorney document? If you have someone designated as your Health Care Power of Attorney they will be the one that the hospital is contacting about health care decisions and in the event of death, they would contact that person about making funeral arrangements (or at least they should). Depending on the state you're in there are a few different Power of Attorne
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I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. I grew up as a non-Mormon in Utah and it sucked big time. My husband and I were temporarily back in Utah after having our first daughter. By the time she was 2 we couldn't stand it anymore and moved to Texas. My husband had no job and we didn't know anyone here. He came down and bought a house and we moved. It was terrifying but I couldn't imagine rais
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Ugh, that was a long, boring way to finally find out what the supposed gay agenda of Frozen was. I completely missed it in the movie, possibly because I'm not insane. That woman is an idiot and most likely a closet lesbian. Why else is she so obsessed with what other people do privately?
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I was talking with our neighbor last night. They're fairly new to the neighborhood so we're still covering the basics, where did you grow up, etc. The fact that I grew up in Utah came up and he started talking about the Mormons he knows. His first comment was that he knows they're nice and family oriented. It's so irritating to me that they're known for that. How did they get that reputa
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We had them come to our door once when we lived in Utah County. I had no idea what they wanted and they didn't say anything. They just stood there staring at us. My husband, an ex-Mormon, figured it out and got rid of them. I think they were just so used to going to every single door that they didn't realize there was one family in town that wasn't part of their organization. I think they we
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XP came out 13 years ago. It's ridiculous that anyone is still using it.
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I think it's impossible for Mormons not to talk about their church. There are a few Mormons in my PTA group (which I'm leaving after this school year!) and they can't help but talk about it. One of the girls I have seen probably 30 times over the last few years and every.single.time she has brought up something about it. If there's ever another Mormon they talk together about everything that i
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I think they need to do a better job covering up. It's so annoying to be somewhere (storytime with my preschooler, for instance) and see a mom's nasty magic underwear sticking out of the back of her pants when she leans forward. It happens all.the.time. I sit here in my not-very-Mormon-world, minding my own business and get assaulted with the sight of their extra underwear. Not appreciated.
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My husband and I try not to even mention Utah when people ask where we're from. Luckily we lived a couple places after that so we just choose something else. I've spent my whole life having to explain that I grew up in Utah and was never Mormon. It's so irritating. If I say I grew up in Utah, the automatic question (95% of the time) is, "Oh, are you LDS?" When I say no, they follow
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Our Great Dane died of bone cancer at 7 years old and I was devastated. I found out I was pregnant a few weeks later, so getting another was more than I could handle. I had to wait 2 years because we felt like the baby should at least be walking before we introduced a giant dog. Anyway, we got another Great Dane (brindle, just like the last one) 2 years later. It was really healing for me to
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I had my first child when I was 29. In the hospital they tested my level of immunity and I wasn't immune anymore. They insisted on giving me a booster (I wouldn't have declined anyway) before I left the hospital. It doesn't hurt to get it checked.
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If you have kids, don't do it. I was raised in Utah as a non-Mormon and it's awful. Kids are mean and they pick on the kids who are different. It's not fun being raised around people who are taught to think you're inferior to them. I'm surprised any of us turned out normal.
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