I assume your wife knows about the sexual stuff, right? If not, it may help reach a solution.
As for "Only resignation might help in that case, and I don't wish to push that for DW's sake.", well, what about your son's sake? I would think that it would less psychologically damaging to your wife for you to resign than it would be for your son to be molested.
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