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... from the sheer love and compassion Tim Gunn expresses. Everyone should watch this 2-min.video!
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That's the truth.
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My suggestion (including fisher of fish’s): “I am writing to let you know that I will no longer be attending church or functioning in any church-related leadership capacity. “I am not ‘offended,’ nor is there any worthiness issue related to my decision. “I inform you of this solely out of courtesy, so that you can move forward and replace my services as needed. “Thank
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Anon TBM, I would like to acknowledge your courage in stating what you believe to be true, even though it opposes the church's official party line. My question to you is this: When it comes to one's stance about gays, who expresses the more enlightened view, Packer or you? Who expresses the more Christlike attitude, Packer or you? If YOU are the more enlightened and Christlike one, why d
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As Titanic Survivor says, “He has a naïve respect for religious authority and he is temporarily swayed by them.” You have done everything you can to try to create a positive relationship with your son, Wendell. He just isn't ready. You have many friends on RfM. While I would guess that most of us were never anti-gay, all of us at one time or another naïvely trusted religious authority
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A funny & apropos ending, as well! (BTW, was Bishop Rood anywhere? The member-passenger in the back of the plane who suggested Monson could fly the plane, perhaps?)
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If EVERYONE in the church who (1) had a gay family member, (2) had a gay friend, or (3) who simply sees gays as being as human as everyone else (and therefore entitled to the SAME civil rights;) were to either resign (loss of tithing income for the church) or (for BICs who can't bring themselves to resign) to withdraw from activity AND *WITHHOLD TITHING* UNTIL THE CHURCH CHANGED ITS POLICIES,
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...at the recent stake meeting in California. At that meeting, presumably good healing happened between (1) gays in the stake and (2) Church leadership as somewhat represented by GA Jensen. I am sure that the presence and contribution of the courageous Carol Lynn Pearson very much added to the atmosphere of healing as well. What are Carol Lynn Pearson's thoughts and feelings NOW, after heari
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...as well as LDS middle managers *aspiring* to be GAs, or those ward members aspiring to appear 'spiritual' to the rest of the ward. I have no recollection of hearing the word "even" used in this way by any Mormons whom I considered to be humble, sincere believers.
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Keep posting, GHD.
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Bleaching hair (or bleaching part of one's hair, perhaps just the top) was "in" for boys aged 12-15 (Mormon or not) some years ago. I remember observing one Sunday that every boy passing sacrament had bleached hair. I am not aware of any bishopric objection at that time. A year later, I noticed that none of the boys passing sacrament had bleached hair any more. The fad had passe
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You are the "apostate" spouse, Shannon, so YOUR feelings don't count, in the eyes of the church. Their beady eyes are focused upon your still-member husband, with hopes of re-snaring him into being an active (especially a tithe-paying) member. You have said nothing about any effort your husband has or has not made to stop them. How does he feel about the visits? Even if HE can shru
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When the Lord's representative in your ward (bishop--or whatever luckless sap gets "called" to assign the cleaning schedule) informs you that it is YOUR turn to clean up this weekend, it is GOD speaking through him and it is YOUR duty to be obedient! The proper response is an unhesitating "Baa, baa!" OR: New Temple Recommend question: 13. Did you show up to clean the
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Would you know if there a link to an online source for this?
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We enjoy hearing about each step of your mother's toward freedom from cult control. And she is in her 80's, too, you say. She must be an amazing woman!
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8: The Mormon Proposition, Part 1 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P8wE2A7_bOA&feature=related There are 9 parts in total, each around 9 min.
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May other opportunities to share your well-researched talk soon follow!
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On the skinny grey box at the very top of the message page is the option "log out." Click on it. Then you can post as anon. The "log out" option is also available at the top of the page if you are already reading a particular thread and want to comment. Note: In either case, if subsequently, you want to post something your regular RfM screen name, you will need to *log
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Regarding the phrase “losing one’s testimony”: “Loss” is normally associated with losing something of value. Yet relative to our former testimonies of the LDS church, we at RfM “lost” nothing of value. Rather, we *replaced* former deception and lies with truth. We GAINED the Truth! I recognize that in your very courteous letter, you are being careful not to offend your VT.
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That is the ONLY way you can be certain to protect your child. Every bishop's goal is to follow the standard interview format, which includes invasive and inappropriate questions. (Not to mention other questions he might be "inspired" to ask.) Bishops are NOT concerned with a mere members' views and CANNOT be trusted to honor DW's & your feelings on the matter!
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…(as Brooks claims.) What made a difference is that Jensen’s willingness to listen to Prop 8 opponents MADE IT OKAY (in TBMs’ minds) for THEM to listen as well. From the article: “During the one-hour meeting, thirteen gay and straight Mormons came to the microphone. Many expressed the profound pain caused by LDS Church actions towards gays and lesbians. The Mormons recalled yea
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After growing up in the hell of polygamy and its inevitable sexual abuse, Flora has risked her life to help others who are caught in the web of polygamy to escape. She minces no words. If you want the undiluted truth about polygamy, Flora tells it.
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Dear Sis, Given your views, it seems that your two choices are for you and DH either to find a way to respect your differences and keep your family together, or to get divorced. Good luck. Love, Smeagol * * * * Smeagol, this is exactly the kind of situation that gives lie to the B.S. that “we are a family church.” Your sister (like many Mormons) has NO opening fo
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And if your mother told the HT to mind his own business, it sounds like she is able to set the boundaries she needs! (She is way ahead of the average Mormon, in this respect.) Besides this, you and your mother have managed a "live and let live" situation. That's great!
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