Thanks, everyone! I forgot to mention that I also developed a training on religious trauma for clinicians and have taught it to over 300 mental health professionals.
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I meant to pop in a couple of days ago and say hello. 10 years ago, on June 27, 2012, sithlord (then known as stuckinzion) told me that he didn’t believe in Mormonism anymore. 3 weeks later I was also done with the church and posting here. So much has happened since then. We are still together and celebrated 32 years of marriage last January. I’ve gone to graduate school and I’m now a l
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I don’t know why, but I felt like popping in tonight to express gratitude to those who remember me on this board. Sithlord and I celebrated 30 years of marriage today. It was almost 8 years ago when he came here looking for help. He was trying to figure out how to tell me that Mormonism was complete crap. Long story short, he told me, I freaked (briefly), I tried to research and save him, t
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Funny that I just popped in this evening. I see you around in other places and now I’m seeing this post. I haven’t been here in a while, either. Interesting how we process complicated family relationships over time as we leave Mormonism and try to sort out the complicated “black and white” Mormon thinking that invades our human relationships. I’m so happy that we met here and remain fri
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Sithlord told me 6 years ago on June 27th that he didn’t believe in Mormonism. I didn’t even realize it until the next day. Things have changed a great deal since that day! I finished graduate school in March. My thesis was entitled “My Journey With the Crone: Authoring an Identity Post Mormonism. I’m working full time as a child and family therapist. I work with adolescents at a secur
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Well, it's been five years since sithlord (then stuckinzion) dropped the bomb on me that he didn't believe in Mormonism. Just three weeks later, I was here posting, and nobody was more surprised than I was. These have been five very eventful years. I've blogged on my own blog, I've guest blogged, I've founded Facebook exmo groups, I'm on the board of the Exmormon Foundation, I'm a huge enthusi
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It never occurred to me until this happened last night that my younger two sons will never know the fear, the mind numbing idiocy, and the relentless guilt. They are free to think and believe whatever they like. They likely won't remember much about Mormonism at all. My two boys just older than them are huge enemies of the church. One of them is a flippant atheist. It's so great to make fun of Go
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High five to us!! My husband and I were just talking about the pulpit set on fire in Vancouver, WA. My 15 yo son, who was 11 when we left the church asked us, "What's a pewl pit?" Score!! My youngest three children will grow up with no fucking idea about the bullshit that is Mormonism. They are free!! In so many simple ways, they are untouched by the poison that is Mormonism.
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I think that for every story like mine, there are dozens of heartbreaking tales. It's a testament to how powerful, dangerous, and controlling the cult is, and it makes me so very angry that people become disposable.
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Today happens to be mine and sithlord's 26th wedding anniversary. For anyone who didn't follow our story 3 1/2 years ago, here's a quick recap: Sithlord told me in June 2012 that he didn't believe in the church any longer. Before telling me, he came here, to RfM to ask for advice. After he told me, I cried and cried for about a week, and then I got busy trying to save his sorry ass by rese
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Everyone says that when I tell them of my plans. I hope to do a lot of good in the world.
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Three years ago today, sithlord told me that he no longer believed the church to be true. I was devastated, and cried my heart out for at least a week. Then I grew angry and determined to save him from his folly. Three weeks later, I was exmo as well. A lot has happened in those three years: 1) We lost most of our "friends". We discovered that the majority of Mormons are "fr
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First of all, I never said that it made me better. Second, she avoided me for 18 months or so, avoiding any social invitations until I finally stopped asking. She then wrote me a paper letter and sent it with her husband. I wrote her a reply email, which went ignored for 9 months, until my husband, seeing my pain and anger, wrote them a scathing email. Only then did we meet for dinner, where
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To be honest, I'm thrilled as well. The truth is, that they won't even like our new friends, they'd judge the new friends, and feel uncomfortable at our parties. It's really their loss, which is too bad for them. They can have their Friday night fun washing laundry at the temple, and I wish I was kidding.
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That's for sure. When we were Mormon, the other couple and my hubby were always frustrated with me for refusing to go to R movies. I was such a stick in the mud.
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http://exmormon.org/phorum/read.php?2,1486242,1486242#msg-1486242 I posted a thread a while back about the loss of a long standing friendship which had been particularly painful to me. I had been uneasy about the conversation we had with them in January (read above), and I had come to the realization since then that I do not want to be friends with people who cannot accept me as I am. I'm done
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You can email me at twoojedis@gmail.com. The two oo's are intentional.
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I'm on the foundation board as well. If you'd like to see my smiling face, I'm the chick on the bottom of the page under board members on the foundation website.
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Our Portland group is super active and close with lots of social activities. Where are you in the area?
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I know who it is. So excited!!
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Let's make a plan when the weather gets warm. We can always get away for a weekend.
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It was a fabulous day when we met! I think we need to spend a long weekend just chatting and drinking wine!
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Pacific Northwest
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We'd love to drive down sometime and treat you to dinner!
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Woo!! I'd love to see you, even cook for you and tend bar. Hopefully it's after the first week of the month because we are going on a cruise for our 25th anniversary.
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As I replay the conversation, I think the cursing is more a symbolic issue. She said, in regards to our "adolescence", "The language, you can wear whatever you want, do whatever you want, and say whatever you want." Um, yeah, because that's what I do. My exmo and nevermo friends accept me just as I am. I don't suspect this is going to be the case with her. This mornin
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Funny how curse words have somehow become an indicator of moral convictions, when the two are not related whatsoever.
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Hahaha! Snort!!
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I did suddenly start cussing. I was so Molly Mormon pure that I didn't even think bad words. I was even trying to eliminate such vulgar words as "crap" from my vocabulary. Thank FSM that Sithlord saved me from myself.
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That's what remains to be seen. I'm not sure that she, in particular can handle the new me. We are not adolescent, we are free. One thing she mentioned was the cursing. It's quite interesting to me, that when we were going out with them a lot, I was always the stick in the mud that refused to go to R movies, or watch racy TV shows with them. They will gladly accept the new twojedis that will watc
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