Posted by:
FredOi
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Date: November 17, 2013 08:05PM
Not at all, and again, sincere apologies if I come off sounding like a know it all a as.
I never communicated with my dad until i was 23, married, out of home.
He was odd, I'm sure I was too, he worked in the gas fields was away more than half my life.
Being told by my wife that my son and I are exactly the same rock's me to core. No were not. He's a selfish snot nosed lazy know it all kid.
I'm not. (Right?)
Having mum , my wife bis mum, always remind us is something we cant argue with, is it.
Why fight myself.
When wife said its ok. I won't think you are not alpha male and emasculated if you let him win fights and arguments, cos I mean, my old man taught me, no, he showed me, who was the alpha male, and it was the MAN of the house, not the CHILD, right.
But now I let him vent.
This is real, teenage boys are missing a part of their brains. This is biological fact.
It turns them into idiots.
It sounds like your ex was a flake of a dad, but as you say, its gotta work.
My wife got me to do things with my son where_he_"won", where he was the man.
The boy is growing up, and there is a lot going on inside.
An Aussie author called Stephen Biddulph writes great books for dads, made a big difference for me, plus wife letting me know I'm no less the man for letting him think he is the alpha male.
He isn't, I'm sure he knows he isn't, but he has to learn it eventually.
Good luck sis. But as an Aussie who sees us police from side on, just don't let them become involved if you can avoid it