Posted by:
Cheryl
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Date: February 19, 2011 09:41AM
Almost every classroom seems to have an obsessive tattler. This is a child who comes to school thinking its his or her job to team up with the teacher and help run the classroom to see to it that fellow students follow the rules.
Why is this a problem? It means the tattler is incapable of normal bonding. They get their social and emotional validation from unquestioned authority figures, never from friends or equals. They don't learn how to naturally interact with peers.
When I taught kindergarten, I shared a classroom with a teacher who would say on the first day each year, "Oh, oh! We've got this list of children and we have to teach them how to play and how to be friends."
One of her favorite phrases was, "YOU are just a little child not the boss. Don't tell me my job and don't tell other kids what to do."
Yesterday, I started a thread about mormon tattlers. RfMers told about being informed on because of drinking hot chocolate from a possible coffee cup, for not wearing garmies 24/7, for not having children soon enough in marriage, for wearing short skirts and the "wrong" kind of earrings, for talking while a priesthood guy was speaking, and many more.
The mormon church is the only one I know which has meetings with tattling as an agenda item.
So is it any wonder that mormon friendships and family relationships tend to fall apart more easily than others?
My TBM mother who is 91 has always had a rule about not letting VTers, HTers, or other extreme TBMs into her house except in the very tidy and TBMish accessorized living room. She knows that mormon misinformation and gossip ruins reputations.
So if mom needs a handyman, maid service, or home health provider, she seeks out a nonmo. This isn't always easy since she lives in an almost 100% morgbot neighborhood.
Adult mormons are often still in a kindergarten tattling mindset. They look for infractions to gossip and tattle about to each other, RP, and bish. This informant attitude doesn't make for lasting, trusting, or authentic friendships. It's destructive to marital relations and familiy interactions as well. Even adult and elderly mormons seem to be pathetically dependent on authority figures for their validation and sense of worth. How sad is that??