S Tom Mason
Date: March 09, 2014 08:37PM
After my wife and I went inactive, members came out of the woodwork to let my in-laws know of our inactivity, after a couple months. My in-laws live in an adjacent ward, aren't well educated, no internet access to the information we have here, and have a very emotional attachment to the church, which resulted in constant prodding and insults.
It's been five years now, and I can honestly say, if our inactivity would have been kept a private matter, our situation may have been temporary and we may have gone back. Instead, by outsiders interjecting themselves into our family, with expressions of phony concern, and my in-laws gullibly playing along, an atmosphere of hostility was created for us, and we'll never go back.
Things have settled down some what with my in-laws, so I'm not likely to resign at this point, so as not to stir the pot. There's no doubt, if I resigned, members would make a b-line to my in-laws to report the situation, which would only upset and distress my elderly in-laws. This may be a bit of a cop-out, but is how I currently feel, and feel it's the right thing at this point.