Posted by:
Blahhhh
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Date: April 22, 2014 06:36AM
I'm a regular poster...we recently left the church.
I need to vent.
First, I love my wife!
We've been together for MANY years. She's my best friend, a wonderful mother, and a great sex partner. But she gets mad at me over the SMALLEST things...every other night!!
Tonight: We're celebrating. It's a special night. Drinking involved. We're having fun. I ask who a person is that's on Facebook. She freaks out. "That's our DS's old seminary teacher." I said, well, I remember 'so-and-so' teacher, but not this one. She's totally mad at me. This "fight" goes on for almost TWO HOURS!!
Every time it's the same thing. I say something wrong and she goes ballistic. I've started recording the fights at night but the next morning I turn into a pansy and delete the recordings.
This last Saturday night we were together (drinking and having sex) and had a huge fight over NOTHING (we were out on our hammock and she would get loud about the star constellations and various other small talk so I told her several times, "shhhhh"). She got totally mad at me thinking I was being condescending to her. As usual. I was recording it...just in case. After fighting, we just went to bed. Yesterday (Sunday), I made her listen to the recording.
To rewind, she woke up Sunday morning and basically asked me to apologize (which is normal...it's always my fault). I said she had said some horrible things the night before. She didn't believe me, so I played the recording which showed she had said she wanted a divorce. That she was an independent woman and no man was going to hold her down. That since we had left the church, there was no reason to stay together. TERRIBLE THINGS!
I had sat there Saturday night, while she was spewing these awful ideas out, and bit my lip because I knew she was drunk. Anyway, Sunday morning, she didn't think she had ever said she wanted a divorce. I was so frustrated that I played the recording from the night before.
Anyway, like always, we made up and things were fine (she said she was sorry). Fast forward to tonight....SAME TYPE OF THING! She got mad that I couldn't remember the stupid name of one of our DS's old seminar teachers. This fight lasted almost two hours (almost 2:00am on a Monday night). We finally got over that and we both went to shower...her first. I got out and we played around for about 10 minutes...she got mad again and now she's been asleep for almost an hour. I turned on the TV while she was passed out and watched 'Cosmos' but then I decided, for the first time, to post a rant on RfM.
I have been keeping track since the beginning of the year and we've had over 22 MEANINGLESS fights. I'm just at my whit's end. We have the same dynamic ALL THE TIME. We love each other tons and our "regular" life is great.
Personally, I know it's the drinking but we just can't admit it. Where I mellow out and relax, many times, she get's up tight and "jumpy." The problem is, it's random...like playing Russian Roulette. And when it good...IT'S GOOOOOOOOD!!
WOMEN....WTF?!?