<<When I got sober, I realized my girlfriend was psychotic and all my friends were @ssholes.>>
Realizing Mormonism is fake is similar to getting sober. We see our reality differently. We see the people around us differently. "Oh crap! They're crazy, but I thought they were normal. I must have been crazy, too."
The same way recovering alcoholics need to shed their drinking buddies, recovering from Mormonism usually means shedding Mormons from our lives. Unfortunately.
The majority of my mormon friends have abandoned us, a few people that tried to stay around to keep us in the faith have been shed by us.
A couple weeks ago though I went to an event and ran into a woman who I've know for 18 years, someone who claimed when we left that I was a good friend of hers and how sad she was for me. Well I tried to make small talk with her, asking about her children, and she totally snubbed me. I was as kind as could be, sometimes kindness is the best method, I know I walked away from that situation as the better person.
Guy is "weller" than I was. I didn't start to get that perspective until I hit the five year mark.
Must've been a high bottom drunk.
I still have Mormons I love, but I almost never see them. They're too busy with church callings, etc. The culture requires they be kept busy--and essentially isolated--in order to maintain the delusional state. If they stop to think, reality intrudes.
Anyway, Big Guy, I ran into Joel's dad at a Will Bagley presentation two weeks ago. Seeing him was definitely a spiritual experience. Plus I found this nice story about him online. Google "Ed" plus his last name, and check out the ksl.com story. That one's a throat grabber.